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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 11:39:51 AM

Mercnbeth

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Now, how the fuck might we find your beacon score? You not showing up and all..........
There are sick bastards on this site, and you killed kenny!
mooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwm,
Eric Cartmann

Eric,
Don't you understand - there is no time for the effort it takes to get to know a person before turning yourself over to them and becoming their slave or submissive. There are lists of activities and sensations that need to be felt - and DAMN quickly at that. There is a need to get a fully certified, validated, fully equipped (with a toy bag), and warranted dom/master. The process of getting away from the keyboard, going out and sitting down to chat, having dinner, walking together; that's BULL-SHIT! There's a need for a piece of paper generated by an investigative law firm; for a fee. Satisfaction guaranteed or your money back!

You know, Eric, the world is full of lonely people, depressed because they are alone, alone because they are depressing company. They put up obstacles in the path to their goal and then complain that the journey is too hard. They seek and demand, what they themselves can't or won't provide.

Eric, Kenny may have died, but his last thoughts were of the happy experiences his lust for life drove him to seek.

Stan

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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 12:28:09 PM

candystripper

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ORIGINAL: MrDisciplne: Oh my how someone is touchy today.

{quote}ORIGINAL: CaptainsPet
I had clear evidence that this guy lied. I didn't say I still wanted to be with him. And the "test" was the result of listening to my inner judgement and intuition.{/quote]

Well, if you had clear evidence and you didn't want to be with him, why the "test" then? Obviously you had enough to go on in the first place with the lie to walk away, the test really did nothing. You played this card (the "test") for no other reason then to amuse yourself. You didn't want to be the one to walk away so you did this so that he would be the one to walk away and you could feel validated. It was a game. He walked away because you were trying to play this game on him.

Now, now now, can we discuss this rationally? My point is, reasonable fears about identity theft can be addressed. Doms need assurances just as submissives do. A background check is a means -- not the only means -- of gaining assurance. If You find it distatsteful, may You never have to get some nutter out of Your home.

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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 12:33:31 PM

candystripper

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Well, sweetheart, you never addressed what I actually wrote so I guess your lack of response makes what I thought about you true. (gee, this looks familar. Kind of like a certain woman that wrote about a Dom and how his lack of response proved her right. hmmmmm)
Test subject A becomes irritated and easily provoked when logic is used against her. Signs of hissy fits and tantrums show a sever lack of ability to cope with situations beyond her control. She then miss-directs her anger at unsuspecting by-standers that make simple comments. She also misdirects attention away from the subject at hand, though this is an unsuccessful attempt. The test subject also never addresses oposition to her points of view, merely gets angry and defensive. Interesting.................

MrDiscipline

Can we tone it down a bit? The two of Y/you disagree and when, where and if a background check has any use. Reasonable people can disagree. It isn't necessary to taunt anyone.

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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 12:47:41 PM

candystripper

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"person gets in trouble with the local gang(for whatever reason)... gang comes knocking at his home... so does mom say yeah he is right here! just let me get him.... or does she lie?" It has happened... it has even happend with someone comes in to a house to threatening a person... "is there anyone else hear?" not to many parents would say yeah a little one is hiding in the closet. Fact is there are many many occassions that it becomes neccessary to LIE! Sometimes the Truth is more than just the moment... sometimes the truth is the Consequences that one wishes to have. Truth in a moment can stop the wanted consequences from occuring.... We also need to beaware of the motivations to those consequences. Integrity is more than just a factual truthful comment. Motivations, The Comment and Consequences!

Knight of Mists

The examples You give, the mother hiding her child, the parents telling their child Santa really exists, and not comparable to "ayup; been divorced 5 years". One is an act to protect the happiness and well-being of a child. One is a deception in furtherance of a man's libidio, showing his lack of character and his complete lack of concern for his partner.

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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 2:00:29 PM

MrDiscipline44

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Here candy, let me help you understand something. My replies you quoted were just that............ replies to someone that was being nasty to me. It's funny how you think to reply to these more then a month after they were posted and you have posted to others in this thread already. You also don't bother to post anything about or to the person that these replies were too. Little one sided, aren't you?

So here's the bottom line, candy. You're no ones mommy here so why don't you just post on things either directed to you or are just general statements and not single out mine that were made back to someone that posted directly to me. Got it, love?

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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 3:53:00 PM

candystripper

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So here's the bottom line, candy. You're no ones mommy here so why don't you just post on things either directed to you or are just general statements and not single out mine that were made back to someone that posted directly to me. Got it, love?

MrDiscipline

i apologise if i inadvertently "bumped" this thread. i used "Most Active Thread" as a search today for the first time, perhaps that is why.

However, i do not feel my replies were directed solely to You, nor one-sided. i feel simply that captianspet should get background checks on any Man she intends to become involved with, at a a proper time, with proper protection for Him against identity theft. i feel this precaution is a poor cousin to intuition and just plain old listening, but neverthelesss, with as much at stake as happens when a couple decides one will relocate or they will cohabitate or both, anything that reduces risk is not untoward.

i realise that You, and SirKenin, and Lam, and Focus, and others have taken the position that checks are bad and should never be done. i find that extreme, but i also said "reasonable people can disagree".

i find all of You to be reaasonable people, and on this, we disagree. Remember, i feel Doms should get checks on submissives as well.

candystripper

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RE: Background Check - 3/3/2006 6:02:51 PM

BearNFirelight

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I think its an excellent idea. When meeting people online you don't have the advantage of looking in their eyes and seeing the real them. You can't see where they live and how they live, or see their place of work, meet their family, etc. If there is nothing to hide they should fully understand the desire and need to be sure about them. The should be glad you are thorough and respect you for being smart enough to do so. If they have a problem with it, then remind them trust is earned, not just handed on a platter cause they are a Dom.

If they still have a problem with it, then there is a reason. Maybe you don't need to run that check after all.....just run.

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