RavenMuse
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ORIGINAL: IceyOne No, it does not mean that all lies are bad. Some are necessary. But I would still not label them as major or minor. They are still lies. Ooh something one which Icey and I disagree, this could be interesting (More likely we will just agree to differ, but lets see) To me, lies are bad full stop. Someone starts telling a small lie, to protect that lie they all too often have to tell a larger one if it looks like the first maybe found out. Having told a couple it is easier to justify more lies, bigger lies. Even if they are not found out the lier knows and that undermines trust in the relationship, even trust in the other person... "If I'm lieing, then so might he be" Then of course what happens to trust when all these lies start unravelling? Some may say there is no alternative. There is! Personaly I don't keep many secrets within a long term relationship, I haven't found a need to so far at least. Any 'secrets' are usualy things friends have told me in confidence and if I am asked about them I explain that I can not say because it would breach a confidence. Even friends know me well enough to trust me on that, let alone any partner I've had. At times I might not volenteer information, or as I say, if asked will explain I can't give it, but I see no need to lie about it and as such, for all the other faults past partners my choose to paint me with, being dishonest or untrustworthy isn't one of them. Honesty and Trust in the relationship are worth avoiding even 'convenient' lies for. I don't see ANY lies as "necessary"!
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