IceyOne
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Well, since I inadvertantly started this discussion, I guess I'll add something to it My original comment was just in regards to the fact that a lie is a lie, there is no inbetween. I have since understood that my thinking on that concept is a bit...arrogant to say the least. Anyway...to go with what the rest of the conversation has centered on: Are some lies necessary? I believe yes. Some lies are necessary at one time or another. It does not change the fact that it is a lie, but it is necessary. quote:
To me, lies are bad full stop. Someone starts telling a small lie, to protect that lie they all too often have to tell a larger one if it looks like the first maybe found out. Having told a couple it is easier to justify more lies, bigger lies. I have to disagree with this RM Not all lies are BAD. Some are necessary to keep a balance emotionally and mentally. Now that does not mean that I am saying that a person should lie simply because they are afraid of facing the truth, or of telling the truth. Only that sometimes, a lie becomes necessary. quote:
quote: ORIGINAL: aurora31 Okay a lie is a lie...but what do you do when your significant other who has spent a great deal of time getting ready just for you walks into the room and asks how do I look. You aboslutly hate the color of her out fit. Do you say you look great honey and deal (white lie) appreciating the effort she put into trying to do something special for you. Or do you tell her the truth and negate all her hard work? aurora My opinion on this is that if I cannot trust my Lord and alandra to tell me the truth regarding how I look, then who can I trust. I would much rather them say, "That is not flattering on you, why don't you put on X" than to say I look good when I don't and I would definitely not want to be in something that either of them hated. Of course they are also biased too. *g* Knight's kyra this is something that I would agree with. Use tact. quote:
The biggest gray area in lies is the lie of omission, and even that falls into the 'will this hurt someone if it is told? or is it just easier' catagories quote:
Untruths, lies, fables call them what you will they are a part of our lives wether we like it or not, it just comes down to good character and morals that guide their use, for help or hinderence Thank you Denika. Your words speak volumes. quote:
The Santa example is pretty irrelevant. We're talking about lying to ANOTHER ADULT (one that you're in a relationship with)--not to a child. This is something that I too, would agree with. I don't feel that Santa Claus can be used as a good example here. Telling the little ones a lie about a person is different than lying to an adult about something that is truly serious. quote:
Motivations, The Comment and Consequences! Again, I am in agreement. The motivation for, the wording, and the ultimate outcome are always what seperates the 'good from bad' lies...ohhhhhhhh I just labeled it there....
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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. -Rumi
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