Nineveh
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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I am neither driven, nor compelled by my enjoyment of topping or bottoming, to feel the need to rob my integrity to pay for my pleasures. I've never cheated. Not sexually, and not emotionally on any of my partners.. I'm monogomous. I've been in poly relationships, because while I'm monogomous minded, I'm just as capable of loving many people when that is what they desire and need for themselves. I add that little bit of information for clarification. It really has no bearing on the fact that I'm monogomous, and I'm also a switch. quote:
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ORIGINAL: Nineveh It can mean that you need both someone to submit to and someone to dominate, which rules out monogamy. This is only true if the bdsm they engage in is sexual in nature. It doesn't have to be. Master Fire People keep saying that. Sex isn't the only kind of cheating, and if it's not intimate I'd be rather surprised if it is fulfilling. I did not mean to accuse switches of being cheaters. The dynamic that needs both someone to Dom and someone to sub to is certainly not representative of all switches, however just like a bisexual who needs someone of each sex it does rule out monogamy. (and I am not accusing bisexuals of being cheaters either, I know that plenty of bi's only want one, and just don't have a preference as to gender, or are flexible in that preference) Also, another disclaimer, I am not accusing poly people of being cheaters, if you are aware that your needs cannot be fulfilled by one person and are open with your partners about this you are not cheating by being with multiple people. I DID however mean to call people who are in a relationship and go outside of it to seek Dominance or submission cheaters. Even if they aren't fucking the people they submit to or dominate they are still cheating unless this sort of thing is ok in their relationship.
< Message edited by Nineveh -- 6/30/2010 2:19:01 PM >
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