allthatjaz
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If I were to look in on our relationship I would see many things. I would see two people very much in love, I would see a huge amount of D/s going on in the subtlest of ways, I would see a very adventurous sex life, I would see an openness that went way beyond anything I had seen before and I would see a real world that could easily intermingle, with out changing levels, with the vanilla world. Our vanilla friends know we have an incredibly deep closeness, I'm pretty certain they know we are kinky but they see us as we are, there doesn't have to be any secrets.
My previous relationships have been as a dominant woman. In those relationships there was never that deep bonding that I feel with Stephen. This, to me, feels like an incredibly equal partnership. There is no higher archie, no trying to convince myself that this fantasy world is real. I don't need fantasy type foreplay 24/7 I need reality.
The sort of people who scoff are the same sort of people that lead a sub around on a collar and leash or put their sub in a cage whilst they watch tv. They are the ultimate game players. they are the ones that can't ever bring their lifestyle out into public circles because they can never be seen as equal. I don't want to curb down how I am when with family and vanilla friends. I don't want to have secret signals or be in a position of trying to remember not to use titles. To me that's just silly and all I can say is, I don't want or need to live in lala land all the time.
Some say that switches are just kinky. I would say that's right about Steve and me. We are hugely kinky. We both get off on hot raw, no bars sex.
We are both of a dominant nature but neither of us want a sub where we have to continually play a role. We have a wonderful sub female who is not only our sub but our best friend. She knows we can be mean, cruel and pushy but she also knows we can be fun, loving and caring. She doesn't expect us to play a role, in fact she's been in this lifestyle as long as we have and has experienced the role of 'ME DOM you sub' type relationships and just like us, she eventually found it boring and unrealistic.
Steve loves my strengths and my determination in life. He loves it that I don't take any bullshit and the way I don't take any of this too seriously too! and he loves the way I refuse to bow down to him without some real force on his part. He is naturally a leader and he has a natural ability to make even vanilla women and men subservient to him (in a non kink way) he has an authority about him that doesn't come from an act but from a personality that is incredibly strong, confident and intelligent. He is dominant without so much as giving it a second thought. Up until meeting him I didn't know such a person exhisted. I had never witnessed such a strong personality and he says that I came as a shock! I was the first woman in his life that had the ability to stand up to him and give as good as I get.
That makes one hell of a powerful relationship and not one that can or should be mocked by some silly dominant that, to be honest, either of us could eat alive in minutes 
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RE: Have you noticed a prejudice against switches on CM? - 
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So I feel like a sub really, but sometimes I wanna jump out into that top area. 
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