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Anyway, it may just be that you've given so much over, this is where the dam breaks.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Anyway, it may just be that you've given so much over, this is where the dam breaks.

I think that's really what she's saying here and maybe it has little to do with TV and or music or maybe it does.

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It isn't that you flat out can't watch them, it's that you don't have the space and/or time to do it presently. It sounds like you work all day, come home, do the chores, and then have a couple of hours to relax... since that's all the time there is, HE chooses how that relaxation will be spent, he isn't going to use those couple of hours watching something that doesn't entertain him... he's the owner, and that's his perogative. So it isn't really that you aren't allowed, it's more that, at this particular point in your life, the available time you have doesn't allow for shows you want to watch. It isn't for the rest of your life, it's for this partiular time in your life.
One other thing.. you mentioned giving up your job to move, selling your car, accepting being open if he wished and so on... I've found on occasion that I will have a melt down over something that really isn't a huge deal simply because it was the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. In other words, it was just too much stripping away too fast and all of the sudden something that I would normally not consider an issue, is the one that's totally tripping me up. I talk to my Owner, he slows down my mental clutter, helps me take a breath and gets me realigned. Lol, he doesn't ever change what he cast to stone, but somehow, He just makes it all okay for me and that small item that had felt tremendous, no longer matters. Maybe this is one of those moments for you?
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We had friends over more often and played board games like Risk and Monopoly.  Instead of going brain dead in front of the boob-tube we read to each other.  I grew to like the Sherlock Holmes books in that period of time.  All in all, we became more social with each other and our friends. 

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Shouldn't happiness = more Sir, even if I'm not getting what I want?

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The real point of this thread is that giving up one's passions, whatever they may happen to be, is very hard to do, but slaves are often required to do this.

I thought it was, but I don't think so now. When the OP replied to my post in which I addressed that very issue, she cut all of that part out of the quote and responded only to the television part. That's why I believe this thread was not about giving up anything but about seeking validation for her tv viewing habits which is fine, but asking for opinions and experiences, saying you will be grateful for them.. that's a bit disingenious. That said, there are others who will be reading and not posting, so hopefully, they skipped the side dish in my own post and went for the meat.

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There is no reason for his removing my privileges. Like I said, I don't watch a lot and my chores come first. He just denies it because he wants to. He doesn't like my shows, he is the Dom, why shouldn't he control it? For me, why is not the issue, as I gave up that power when I became a slave. But the thought of a lifetime of never choosing to watch something on TV again is kind of daunting.

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I'm not saying the reason matters..it doesn't really.

But if this is a new relationship for the OP then it might help the OP to understand her place better and her owner until they are more comfortable with one another and she can accept her life as property.

In the beginning I think it's sort of important for reasons to be known until the slave is understanding of its Master and the slave settles into its new life.

Now that I've been with Master for quite a few years now I can accept whatever it is without reason because I'm comfortable with him and as his slave. I know him enough to know that I can trust him.

In the beginning however it did bother me a little and I did ask a few times for reasons. Thankfully he didn't mind answering me even if the answer was "because I find it entertaining". It helped me to deal with it in my own head and ask myself if I could like like this and what was more important to me. Obviously He is.

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Good point. Questions and reasons are pretty important at the beginning, they either build trust or make you want to slowly back out the door, although in many cases I think we are better off if that beginning stuff happens before the two people commit to a master/slave relationship (i.e. you can't slowly back out of a door that's now locked shut). When you don't know someone and you ask a question you can tell by their answer a little bit about how they think and perhaps something how they make decisions. And as you hear more reasons, you build up a larger picture of their thought processes. That's important information to know before you become a slave, not after it's a done deal.

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My chores will be done, my Dom will be looked after very well and I don't need to be punished or torn down to be re-built. 

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And yes, it possibly is the straw that broke the camel's back. I've adjusted to a lot of changes since we moved in at the start of the year. I have much less time to myself, and I've had to learn to make him my constant focus. A lot of the time I walk in from work, and just instantly start serving him. So I'll do a 12 hour day, followed by 3-4 hours of chores and then sit with him for an hour or two before I go to bed. And this is fine 6 days a week, and then on the 7th day I'll ask if I can watch something and he'll say no because he wants to watch Military Driving School or How It's Made, and I'll just want to scream! And yes, I could go into another room, read a book, or come online, but like I said, I don't want to spend less time together, or get into the habit of thinking that happiness = no Sir. Shouldn't happiness = more Sir, even if I'm not getting what I want? But at the same time it's hard having someone else's culture imposed on you all the time. Which brought me to my original post, and how other D/s couples deal with it.

owned xxx