agirl
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ORIGINAL: Awareness quote:
ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I don't want a man to be with me just for what he thinks maybe I will one day become I want him to be with me for who I am right now and just enjoy what I may become later, later. When you're bringing less to the table because of past issues, that's baggage. Dealing with your baggage is your responsibility. If you have no commitment to dealing with that and expect a dude to be cool with that, then you're aiming for a guy without standards. It's not like you're the plump girl in school the guy's hooking up with because he thinks he can turn you into a supermodel. Oral is a pretty fundamental part of sex. I wouldn't bother with a sub that said "no oral, but maybe one day in the future" - fuck that. That's gameplaying around one of the fundamentals of a sexual interaction. It's your past, your issues, you should already have the commitment in place to deal with it - none of this crap around "see what happens". quote:
I never said I want to stagnate, in fact if you knew me you would know stagnation is one of my biggest fears. I am one of the most ambitious people you will ever meet constantly reaching for the stars and pushing myself to grow but that doesn’t mean I don't want someone that will take me as I am right now. You're prepared to stagnate on this issue and expect a Dom to tolerate that. No Dom worth his socks actually will. Progress is expected and demanded. quote:
If you don't want me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best. First off, you're not Marilyn Monroe. Second - you're damn right I don't. I expect your best. I'm not going to enter into an interaction with someone whereby they make excuses for not bringing their A game to the table. I disagree, why are my hard limits any less valid than someone elses just because mine are routed in past abuse? Someone here said it and they were right, a hard limit is a hard limit period end of story. This is part of an issue I have been working on getting over my entire adult life but sometimes you have to see that some things are too painful emotionaly to simply solve. That doesnt mean you dont continue to work on them and it also doesnt mean that even if you continue to work on them that you will succeed in fixing it all. Nothing wrong with it at all, but you asked whether it might be considered less *subly/bottomy*....well, to some people it might well be. M would certainly have been fine if I had a problem with something but wouldn't have been fine if I produced it as a *limit*. You wouldn't choose M and he wouldn't choose you. All things considered, it comes down to WHO you want to be with and why. And that's ALL it is. agirl
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