HeatherMcLeather
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Joined: 5/21/2011 From: The dog house Status: offline
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If you look hard enough ( which you choose to do) you can find bigotry in everything. Saying, "some of my best friends are jews..." but not wanting an intimate relationship with one isn't bigoted, it's choosing a mate based on core values that come from religious beliefs. What in God's name are you talking about? It sure isn't anything I was talking about. quote:
Think of it this way.....would you consider a heterosexual who would have homosexual friends but not intimate homosexual relationships bigoted? Sexuality, for many, is also a core value. No I would consider them heterosexual, that is the meaning of the word. If you have an intimate homosexual relationship you are a homosexual or a bisexual, not a heterosexual. Sexuality isn't a "value", it isn't something you can chose to put on and take off. It isn't something you are convinced of. It's something you are, like being black or white. quote:
Would you change that major part of who you are (a lesbian) to have an intimate relationship withh her? Would you consider yourself a bigot if you didn't? That's got to be just about the dumbest thing I have ever been asked. Being a lesbian isn't something I can change even if I wanted to, anymore than I could become a cute Asian chick. So no one can't be considered a bigot for not changing something that can't be changed. quote:
The same thing goes for attraction to a bisexual. Your saying that not wanting a relationship with one makes a person a homophobic bigot shows ignorance, whic is the whole basis of bigotry. Unfortunately you are the one displaying ignorance. quote:
By your own terms you are bigoted against straight people because you don't want a (intimate) relationship them. No. I'm afraid you are completely and utterly wrong. You are misunderstanding the meaning of bisexual, heterosexual, and homosexual. I am attracted to many straight women, I have been all my life and would be happy to be in an intimate relationship with them. This is because I am a homosexual, I am sexually attracted to members of the same sex as myself. I have not had an intimate relationship with a straight woman because they aren't interested. They are heterosexual, they are sexually attracted to members of the opposite sex. I am in an intimate relationship with a bisexual. This is possible because she is attracted to me, she is a bisexual and is sexually attracted by members of both sexes. There is a gay guy at her work she really has the hots for, but since he is gay, that isn't going anywhere either, much like me and my straight girls. That is where the homophobia comes into it, she isn't rejecting the person because she isn't physically attracted to that gender, her lack of attraction has nothing to do with his gender, it has to do only with his sexual orientation. It has to do with a mental bias she has. If he stayed in the closet and hid his bisexuality, she would be perfectly happy to love and adore him, but as soon as he admits that he is sexually attracted to some men, he is no longer as good and decent a man as he was before he told her, he is suddenly not good enough for her. Not for anything he did, but just for an ability to have certain erotic and or romantic feelings. As well, she somehow equates being able to be sexually attracted to men as well as women with being required to have sex with men. This is no different than the old perception that gays were somehow unable to have stable long term relationships. A bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman has no more need to have sex or a relationship with a man he finds attractive than a heterosexual man in similar relationship has a need to have sex or a relationship with another woman he is attracted to. This is where the bigotry enters into the equation. She deems a bisexual less able to be happy and faithful in a monogamous relationship simply on the basis of his ability to find men attractive. She is assigning a lesser ability to behave in a moral and ethical manner to people based on their sexual orientation. If that isn't bigotry, then I don't know what is. What she said is really in no way different than saying she would never consider having a relationship with a black man. quote:
Yes, your age is a factor here. You are at that age in life where you want to make your mark, you want to fight for rights you may not have as a lesbian. I am sure you are right, due to my age, I have grown up in a time when we recognize that sexual orientation has nothing to do with a person's worth or their morals or ethics. And just as an aside, I really am not interested in fighting for anything as a lesbian. I live in a country where I have every right that a straight person does. The gay rights movement has pretty much won the fight here. My sexual politics are focused on the poly aspect of my sexuality. quote:
That is all good, but in the real world outside of CM where peopple think you are the cutest, smartest girl group on the western hemisphere, Gee, bitter much? Besides, people don't think that, they know it. quote:
your arguments don't hold up and show a lack of understanding based on youth, lack of experience and lack of education. Actually, as I have pointed out, it is your arguments that show a lack of understanding. I won't venture an opinion as to what it is based on, but I'm sure we all have our pet theories. quote:
Chances are twenty years from now, if you look back on your thoughts and words you will see this because those three things wll have changed. Oh I doubt I will change my opinion in this particular case, I am highly unlikely to become ignorant and less educated over the next 20 years.
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