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Joined: 9/2/2008 From: Hell, Kentucky Status: offline
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I had a female sub for about 9 months. I gave her a set schedule, I gave her tasks, I gave her about a million and one reasonable guidelines that were meant to change the behavior she addressed having issues with. Every. Single. Fecking. Step. She fought. She had excuses. She whined. She complained. She threw fits. She cried! She had tantrums that could have been in a competitive two year old event. I am NOT even kidding. My suggestion: Spend a little more time in the psychoanalytical end of things. Listen to what is being said with out having been said, and watch for reactions to stimuli that can not be hidden. Also, consider the caliber of woman you are dealing with. Is she younger, less experienced, insecure, less intelligent. THEN- think about HOW you are doming her. Are you being clear in what you are asking, are you balancing reward and punishment. And after all that, bear in mind that we live in a society that teaches us it is weak, or "not right" to be involved in any form of sexual deviance, so the "nurture" of the beast is to fight the desire of the body. Be patient. Be persistent. Most importantly, be consistent. Do not give in to fits of temper when the sub messes up. Simply enforce whatever punishment, talk about the infraction, and move on.
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