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ORIGINAL: AngelinChainz
If you met a lady that had everything you wanted in her attitude, disposition and willingness to submit would you be willing to help her transform her physical body into what you would find pleasing?
Of course. Your "if" is a big if, though. Men are different, so my reaction to your question isn't any more representative than anyone else's. But here's my effort.
If a woman had everything I wanted in terms of attitude, then it wouldn't be a question of my "helping her". I'd be transforming her in any case in a number of ways, including her physical appearance if I wanted to change that.
Your question reads as though you're not quite understanding a man like me. First, you give the slight impression of misunderstanding what I want and need, and taking it much too lightly. You seem to think "everything I want in terms of attitude" etc. is fairly easily achieved - but it's not. It would be for me to decide whether she lived up to that, and it'd almost certainly take me quite some time, and her quite a bit of work, pain and sacrifice, before I could say she did.
Second, the way you ask "would you be willing to help her ..." seems to assume this woman would be self-directed. She wouldn't. A woman who had "everything [I] wanted in her attitude" (your words) would be doing a lot of hard mental and psychological work, first towards relegating, then towards abandoning and freeing herself from her own goals and desires, so that she could focus solely on helping me achieve mine.
Finally, method. You mention surgery, but if I were with this attitudinally perfect woman, and wanted to slim her down, then obviously I'd decide how and over what timescale. There could be question of her being fixated on particular methods, or of her being impatient about progress - except impatience to achieve my goals for her. I know if I owned a woman like this, it'd be a long hard, very gradual road of diet, exercise and lifestyle change. There'd be no question of surgery, ever. If she really were attitudinally perfect, then she'd report to me any impatience she ever felt with my goals and strategy for achieving them, so that I could punish her if I thought appropriate.
There almost certainly are men out there who have a specific thing about driving bigger women to lose weight. I can understand that sort of kink, and that it could just work with a woman who wanted to use him instrumentally to achieve her own weight loss goals.
On the other hand, a woman may feel that to be happy she needs to be thinner and be with a very dominant man who was not happy being used like that. In that case, it's perfectly fair enough to make sure before starting a relationship that her would-be master, owner or dominant would like her to be slimmer. Fine. But once that's clear, I suspect the secret may be, paradoxically, to try to forget about the thin thing, and focus simply on pleasing him.
Perhaps I'm just talking about myself here, of course, but I can easily imagine feeling that excessive focus on her weight and looks, impatience about change and insecurity intruding into her thoughts and actions were a sort of self-centredness that did not serve to put my desires first, and were a potential source of resistance to me.
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