LaTigresse
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Ishtar, seriously? When people ask generic questions they get generic answers. When people answer generic questions, regardless of however generically they try, they are still going to answer based upon their own personal dynamic and life experience. Most people are smart enough to realize that. I think I pretty much speak for all but two people that have posted on this thread when I say, I do not care AT ALL how you and your husband do things. For ME, from MY perspective, based on what the two of you have written, there is very little power exchange dynamic, but instead you push him until he serves your kink. It works for you and he, it doesn't matter what I think about it. It would not work for me and I wouldn't tolerate it. I may be wrong, but I see a disconnect between your past descriptions of your marriage and what your husband writes. To ME, that would be a problem. Apparently it's not to you, or to him. He gets to believe he is a master and you are a slave, or whatever he believes. You get your kink wet and juicy. All is good. To me, what you have is fucked up. Regardless of gender. Apparently it works for you so I don't care. You and your husband shouldn't care either. When some clueless twit starts asking questions on a website, they are going to get answers based upon the poster's individual filters and life experience. My filter and experience says your marriage is fucked up 3 ways till Thursday. You and he see it differently. Why is what I see, any sort of negative to you? It is very likely that you wouldn't think my life and my ideal relationship dynamics are valid either. Trust me when I say, I don't care. Your opinions do not at all impact me, my life, my relationships. Why on earth you and yours are allowing strangers on the net, to validate or not, your relationship, is beyond me. People are asking for OPINIONS. People are giving OPINIONS. What you think and have is valid for YOU. What I have is valid for ME. Trying to switch dynamics would likely result in ruined relationships. Funny how that works. Neither is right or wrong, just different. People are saying that what you have, what works for you, would be WRONG FOR THEM. For you and yours to get upset or defensive, makes me question how well it is really working for you. Again, not my problem. Just my observation.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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