LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze I disagree with that and I think I qualify as a sadist. Sadism is for my pleasure and not punishment, if I need to beat or punish somebody to have control, then I've failed as a dominant, then I'm just a bully. Punishment for transgressions would be ignoring the person or giving the person a task they don't like. What we do is consensual, in case somebody engages in a power exchange with me they have to want it, I'm not going to fight with them every step of the way, it's a waste of my energy. You want to disobey rules, we're just not well suited. Very much this. To be honest, my sadism has very little at all to do with my dominance and relationship dynamics. I actually did an adendum to this earlier and my computer went wonky before it posted. I couldn't save it and now I cannot remember the exact wording, but it is a bit like this. My domination tends to be appreciated and beneficial to most everyone around me. Most people appreciate a good leader. It's good for my employer, it's good for my family, it benefits nearly all of my relationships. To even attempt to suppress it would be nearly impossible. It is my personality. My sadism is appreciated by very few. It's not necessarily a positive attribute, or required, to do what needs to be done on any given day. It's a facet of me that requires a very disciplined control. I would venture to say it is a damned good thing I have the self control I do, and a strong moral code.......or I would not exactly be someone you would want walking free on this planet. Learning more about BDSM and power exchange relationships did two things for me. It allowed me to free my inner sadist (yay me) but it also allowed me to dramatically strengthen the mastery of self that plays off the dominant aspect of my personality. My moral code and ethics require me to be responsible....to master myself. For ME, acknowledging that sadist also forces me to dominate and master myself, first and foremost. If I cannot do that, then I have no business dominating/mastering, others. So while the sadist is freed and more readily accessed, it is also much better controlled.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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