RedMagic1
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three women made written claims on Fetlife that he's raped them. I just can't get behind using social media to address a law enforcement issue. Now, if the legal system isn't working properly, such as in the Steubenville rape case, by all means use social media to get them to do their job. But social media shouldn't be a starting and ending point in criminal matters. So to answer your question, if the five women can't be bothered to go to the police, I wouldn't be bothered to go out of my way to warn others about him. Assuming you know them, you could put some energy into encouraging them to file charges. What about a workshop for noobs, covering things like having a vanilla meeting first, healthy boundaries, listening to your instincts, trusting your gut, identifying as sub doesn't mean you lose the ability to say no? This is essentially my position as well. I wouldn't be willing to take action just because I read one side of a story on the internet. However, have you spoken to any of these women in real life? If you know them in real, and you are personally convinced by them that they are telling the truth, then that's a different situation. At least it would be, for me. That said, I wouldn't just accept someone's word. I'd need to know the person had a history of telling the truth, and not being dramatic, and that the details of the situation were all consistent. If you're in a mindspace where you feel you have to do something, and can't just ignore it, then my suggestion would be to take steps to find out the truth. I don't know what that would entail, but perhaps you do. Get something concrete, and then make a judgement based on that. If that isn't possible, you might have to accept the unpleasant reality that you don't really know what happened.
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