DarkSteven
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Joined: 5/2/2008 Status: offline
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Dude, turn off the porn. Why does the new girl need to be younger? Why does your profile insist she be attractive? You're looking for a hot fantasy to replace your wife. Come clean. Saying that your sex life is limited to "asthma and other issues" is bullshit. Lots of asthmatics have full sex lives. The "other issues" indicate that your relationship is seriously strained and you don't know how to fix it. Why is it important that your wife agree, anyway? Your profile says you want to keep your other girl "discreet". So let me get this straight. You don't even really know what Dominance is. You have been married for 30+ years and never discussed your kinky tendencies. You're "sure" she's Dominant even though you've never discussed it with her. (ANd how do you know she's 0.01% bi?) Your marriage is not going well. And your intent is to start over with a new woman, while staying married. There are several paths forward. 1. Do it the right way. Slowly explain the lifestyle to her. Make this a two way street - don't just tell her your fantasies - ask her what hers are as well. Be prepared to find that she's totally vanilla and not curious. Or that her fantasies mismatch with yours. This will give you experience with resolving issues and conflicts. Since a Dominant needs to assume responsibility for his relationships, this will provide you with some experience in making them work, which you absolutely need. This will take several years to do properly, with no guarantee that she'll want another woman. (Hint - she'll never agree to another unless she feels completely safe in her relationship. This will start her along that path.) 2. Separate from her and start over. This will surprise you, to find out that 50 year olds with no experience are not in hot demand. But if you persist and have a good personality, you can get somewhere although it will take a few years. This is the course I followed. 3. Just say the hell with it and cheat. Finding a woman who'll be your dirty little secret won't be easy. 4. Forget about it, and try to improve the relationship with your wife.
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