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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:35:55 PM   
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what i do find annoying, however, is women who dont even care to say "sorry i am not interested".
I'm guilty of this. After a day's worth of horrible replies to "Sorry, not interested" you learn it's not worth the hassle.



I'm not really looking any more, but "back in the day" I was one of the guys that actually did read profiles, and would only write to those that I thought were promising as far as compatibility. I'd take the time to write out what I thought were thoughtful, informative, letters, talking about what I thought we had in common and why I'd like to get to know them better. Often, this process would take 30 minutes to an hour. And all too often I'd not get any kind of reply in return. I hate to think how much time I wasted on them. Eventually I did start getting a "fuck that" attitude, and my initial contact letters got shorter and shorter. Why the hell should I waste my time if they can't even be bothered to send a simple, "Thanks, but no thanks"? Of course then you start seeing all of the women that complain about the short, non-informative contact notes. Jesus Freaking Christ, ladies. . .you can't have it both ways! If you want thoughtful, informative, and considerate first contact letters, then at least show a little appreciation for the amount of time and effort that some guys DO put into it. If you can't do that, then all you can expect are the short two liners that say, "Hi. Read my profile and if you like what you see, let me know." To at least some extent it is your own fault that that is what you receive.

If you want to avoid the "horrible replies to "Sorry, not interested"" then all you have to do is send the "Sorry, not interested" to them, then click the "Block" button. It takes all of about 10 or 12 seconds. Compare that to the amount of time some people spend to send a thoughtful contact letter and you start looking awfully cheap and rude by comparison.
Good thing you're not looking to publish a book! Otherwise you'd see many form rejections and non-responses in your future.

Do you take the time to give thoughtful rejections to credit card offers? Or any other solicitations?

Most of the messages women get are no more thoughtful than those. You may have been one of the few who showed actual thought and effort (and I would've been one to respond, actually), but you're buried under the mass of "hi how r u? lets be friends and mayb more" crowd.

It's not fair, but show me one thing in life that is.

It's been said that the rude messages women get are no excuse for being rude to a man who sends a thoughtful message, and we shouldn't take our frustrations out on them. But when you say "fuck it" after not being responded to and start sending shorter messages, aren't you doing the same thing? Sounds like the all too common story of the "nice guy" giving up and turning into an asshole because he thinks that'll get him laid for once. Why is it OK for you to say "fuck it," but not OK for me?

Blocking MIGHT work. It might also set off the guy even more and lead him to harass her on sock accounts. This is not unheard of.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:37:45 PM   
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However, for a moment spare a thought for the guy. He too might be genuinely looking for someone "his type". Trust me, sometimes hearing a "no thank you" also helps people tune in better to who all might be more suited , otherwise sometimes we are left guessing , well not forever ( no one is that stupid) but for rather lengthy stretches of time.


How does a "no thank you" help the poor guy figure this out?





You exchange emails, a few texts, meet a few times and in your view, there is a great and wonderful connection. Then the other person goes "poof" and you never hear back from him/her. (I've heard this story from both men and women.) Did he/she get into a car accident? Did some tragic strike this person? A simple, "I decided I'm not interested" "I've changed my mine" would help a lot.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:41:08 PM   
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I've always expressly preferred not getting "Sorry, not interested" replies. Because I can figure that out from the lack of response and I'd much rather get the new mail notification from women who want to talk to me.

(Obviously, I'm not a dick if I do get a reply. It's meant in good faith, but I'd still rather not get them at all).

Valid, and you'd be surprised how many guys share this opinion. Except some of them are dicks and will respond with "You wasted my time replying to this!"

Between those guys bitching about getting responses and the guys bitching about NOT getting responses, there's no way for a female to avoid harassment. That or the only "acceptable" response is to give the sender a chance because it's "polite," whether we're interested or not.

Guys, we're not mind readers and are under no obligation to nurture your fragile ego. Stop bitching about how someone you never met was mean to you on the internet.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:41:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Im always open to the possibility of being convinced but at the point I say no it means you are so far off the mark you aren't even playing the right field. Very few things could change that, though it is possible and a couple times people have caught themselves and turned it around. So I never rule it out entirely but at the point I have ever argued with someone the possibility of ever having my respect or appreciation just shot down to next to nothing. On the plus side ive never had an argument with any of my friends :D

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:44:54 PM   
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However, for a moment spare a thought for the guy. He too might be genuinely looking for someone "his type". Trust me, sometimes hearing a "no thank you" also helps people tune in better to who all might be more suited , otherwise sometimes we are left guessing , well not forever ( no one is that stupid) but for rather lengthy stretches of time.


How does a "no thank you" help the poor guy figure this out?





You exchange emails, a few texts, meet a few times and in your view, there is a great and wonderful connection. Then the other person goes "poof" and you never hear back from him/her. (I've heard this story from both men and women.) Did he/she get into a car accident? Did some tragic strike this person? A simple, "I decided I'm not interested" "I've changed my mine" would help a lot.

That doesn't answer the question. The result is the same either way.

Unless you think "I decided I'm not interested" should be followed by reasons. If so, no. Just no. Nobody is required to back up "you're just not my type," and that leaves her wide open for her reasons to be picked apart and invalidated.

And what's the guy supposed to learn anyway? Change part of your personality and try again? No. Keep being you and keep looking until you find someone compatible. This is not some cheesy rom com. You're not always going to get THAT girl by trying hard enough. Just accept that you're not compatible with this person and MOVE ON.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:47:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		If there ever was a thread to show the difference between men and women it's this one. The thing is, even if you write this long biography, if it is pretentious, copy/pasted or lack luster? A gal is gonna spot that a mile away. It's one of our superpowers, LOL. If you're gonna give a woman your attention it has to be fully there, 100%, undivided, determined and decidedly there. If it's not you're just another guy blowing smoke up her ass. And we have enough to fire up a choo choo train. I'm just saying guys, don't you think there is redundancy in the lack of "setting yourself apart and actually wowing us"? I mean really, there is so much entitlement on this thread as far as expectations from women. Sort of like when sub women say "uh...don't email me get on my knees and suck my dick" to me. These are mostly men doing it and yea, you have to set yourself apart from THAT GUY. If you are being honest and genuine and real she'll respond. Was your search more about you or more about her? Ask yourselves that.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 1:57:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Agreed with Manko. You're probably trying too hard and coming across as insincere.

Roughly 8 months ago, the guy who is now my boyfriend sent me this message on a certain dating site:

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Can I get a buy on the icebreaker? I have been working for like an hour, and nothing. NOTHING. I only suffer because I do think we may actually mesh rather well and want to open a dialogue. That and get to know you. I just suck at cold opens, so maybe a little sympathy pass here?

Reading your profile, and looking at compatibility it seems like there could be groundwork for something. I have been in open relationships in the past. I will admit guys make me a little more defensive then girls, but as long as the trust is there, the honesty is there, it has never been a problem. Unless I'm not the primary, then I'm pretty happy go lucky, I am very protective of my emotions and heart. In the past I find they are the easiest way to hijack and take advantage of someone. Seems like you feel the same to a degree based on some of what you said.

Not really sure what more to say. I could say more, but don't want to be too TMI upfront. Also my little introvert butt has been working to hard to be engaging, it's tired now. Trust me first date could very well be us sipping drinks while staring at kindles, and you know I may not complain :)


Yes, he read my profile and spent time thinking of a message. The result came across as human and not as a pretentious "look at me, I'm so interesting" form of introduction that many guys who try to be thoughtful end up sending.

(I just had a thought. We have a "funny messages from the other side" thread already. What about a thread with some good opening messages? How well do you all think that would do?)

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 2:03:33 PM   
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Did you ever consider that there is a happy middle ground between 1 hour initial contact essay (which is uber creepy, btw) and 10 second spam mail shot that gets you nowhere?


To be fair, I used to break the "short initial mail" rule and send out late night caffeine essays all the time, with reasonable results.

However, some important qualifiers apply.

I didn't see it as entitling me to a reply just because I'd spent time on it. It was my choice to do that and I was doing it primarily for myself. (In the least surprising revelation ever, I'm an incorrigible fucking showoff).

My profile and journal were both really, really verbose. I was only messaging women who had taken the same approach. So it's a very definite subset of the other side.

I stayed well away from anything sexual or relationship related and just talked toot. (I got together with one of my exes after sending her a thousand word rant about Narnia).

I'm fully aware this will sound arrogant, but I am a much better writer than most guys on this site.

So, yeah, it's not necessarily a hard and fast rule. But breaking it requires knowing your target audience. (And if your target audience is "sexually compatible women" then you should probably do it your way).

Although I will share a rejection email I didn't mind getting, because it was frankly brilliant. In full:

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Yes, yes. You are wit. But my gosh don't you just know it.

(Sorry, not interested).


If all rejection emails were that marvelous I'd start deliberately collecting them.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 2:05:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla


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However, for a moment spare a thought for the guy. He too might be genuinely looking for someone "his type". Trust me, sometimes hearing a "no thank you" also helps people tune in better to who all might be more suited , otherwise sometimes we are left guessing , well not forever ( no one is that stupid) but for rather lengthy stretches of time.


How does a "no thank you" help the poor guy figure this out?





You exchange emails, a few texts, meet a few times and in your view, there is a great and wonderful connection. Then the other person goes "poof" and you never hear back from him/her. (I've heard this story from both men and women.) Did he/she get into a car accident? Did some tragic strike this person? A simple, "I decided I'm not interested" "I've changed my mine" would help a lot.

That doesn't answer the question. The result is the same either way.

Unless you think "I decided I'm not interested" should be followed by reasons. If so, no. Just no. Nobody is required to back up "you're just not my type," and that leaves her wide open for her reasons to be picked apart and invalidated.

And what's the guy supposed to learn anyway? Change part of your personality and try again? No. Keep being you and keep looking until you find someone compatible. This is not some cheesy rom com. You're not always going to get THAT girl by trying hard enough. Just accept that you're not compatible with this person and MOVE ON.


I completely understand that women get tons of emails and it would be impossible to say, "Thanks but no thanks" to each one. However, if a relationship develops, the man/woman deserves some sort of explanation. It's hurtful when you're in a relationship with someone and that someone just decides to ignore you for no apparent reason. The man/woman spent time and energy in the relationship and deserves to be treated better. I guess the person who got coldly dumped could say, "Wow, I'm glad she/he did this now and not later. Can you imagine how much more painful it would have been if we were partnered and he/she did it?"

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 2:11:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Agree with manko

My owner originally just sent a message along the lines of "you are going to be mine someday" I laughed it off and put him in the ignorant douchebag looking to cyber pile.... but every week I kept getting messages from him, I went from writing him off to joking on a regular basis, to telling each other everything, to showing up on his theoretical doorstep.

All the people I message with regularly have read my journal for months or years before ever sending me a message. That isnt something planned it's just how it works out.

People want to feel that they are different from every other person you messaged, theu arent the 20th "hello how are you" of the day, you aren't just throwing a grenade in and picking up whatever flops to shore.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 2:12:27 PM   
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I completely understand that women get tons of emails and it would be impossible to say, "Thanks but no thanks" to each one. However, if a relationship develops, the man/woman deserves some sort of explanation. It's hurtful when you're in a relationship with someone and that someone just decides to ignore you for no apparent reason. The man/woman spent time and energy in the relationship and deserves to be treated better. I guess the person who got coldly dumped could say, "Wow, I'm glad she/he did this now and not later. Can you imagine how much more painful it would have been if we were partnered and he/she did it?"


Yeah, I do think that's a bit different and it is a bit shitty to just disappear, especially if you've already met IRL. It's the equivalent of climbing out the pub window on a bad date.

That said, what can you do? Just pick yourself up and carry on.

You do also need to recognise that it's a lot easier for you and me. Because, compared to women, we are way less likely to face any kind of physical danger for rejecting someone.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 2:19:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Also- perhaps their looks aren't the only factor women are looking at?

How much or little you put in your profile.
Your kinks and interests might not line up with hers.
For me the second someone mentions certain kinks being really important to them, it isn't gonna work with me.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 2:49:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MathewIndio


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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla


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ORIGINAL: littleladybug

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ORIGINAL: IcarusBurning

However, for a moment spare a thought for the guy. He too might be genuinely looking for someone "his type". Trust me, sometimes hearing a "no thank you" also helps people tune in better to who all might be more suited , otherwise sometimes we are left guessing , well not forever ( no one is that stupid) but for rather lengthy stretches of time.


How does a "no thank you" help the poor guy figure this out?





You exchange emails, a few texts, meet a few times and in your view, there is a great and wonderful connection. Then the other person goes "poof" and you never hear back from him/her. (I've heard this story from both men and women.) Did he/she get into a car accident? Did some tragic strike this person? A simple, "I decided I'm not interested" "I've changed my mine" would help a lot.

That doesn't answer the question. The result is the same either way.

Unless you think "I decided I'm not interested" should be followed by reasons. If so, no. Just no. Nobody is required to back up "you're just not my type," and that leaves her wide open for her reasons to be picked apart and invalidated.

And what's the guy supposed to learn anyway? Change part of your personality and try again? No. Keep being you and keep looking until you find someone compatible. This is not some cheesy rom com. You're not always going to get THAT girl by trying hard enough. Just accept that you're not compatible with this person and MOVE ON.


I completely understand that women get tons of emails and it would be impossible to say, "Thanks but no thanks" to each one. However, if a relationship develops, the man/woman deserves some sort of explanation. It's hurtful when you're in a relationship with someone and that someone just decides to ignore you for no apparent reason. The man/woman spent time and energy in the relationship and deserves to be treated better. I guess the person who got coldly dumped could say, "Wow, I'm glad she/he did this now and not later. Can you imagine how much more painful it would have been if we were partnered and he/she did it?"

Either you have a strange definition of relationship, or you've gone off topic. I thought we were talking about first contact?

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 3:18:39 PM   
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What has always worked for me is to treat a first contact (that I've initiated) like a comment to a woman at the bar. Friendly, funny, perceptive; said with a smile. Most of all, though: brief. Don't waffle on and don't be heavy. It's a gentlemanly flirt - no more, no less.

Hmm. I think I used to send long, ponderous and earnest opening cmails - but they never worked.


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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 3:37:43 PM   
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Guys, we're not mind readers and are under no obligation to nurture your fragile ego. Stop bitching about how someone you never met was mean to you on the internet.


This. So much of this.


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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 3:45:20 PM   
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Guys, we're not mind readers and are under no obligation to nurture your fragile ego. Stop bitching about how someone you never met was mean to you on the internet.


This. So much of this.


I am going to third this and also state (which I hope this should be obvious), if someone is going to stand you up, leave mid date or vanish off the face of the planet? Don't think too far into it, you're better off without them anyway.


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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 5:46:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littleladybug

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ORIGINAL: IcarusBurning

However, for a moment spare a thought for the guy. He too might be genuinely looking for someone "his type". Trust me, sometimes hearing a "no thank you" also helps people tune in better to who all might be more suited , otherwise sometimes we are left guessing , well not forever ( no one is that stupid) but for rather lengthy stretches of time.


How does a "no thank you" help the poor guy figure this out?





You exchange emails, a few texts, meet a few times and in your view, there is a great and wonderful connection. Then the other person goes "poof" and you never hear back from him/her. (I've heard this story from both men and women.) Did he/she get into a car accident? Did some tragic strike this person? A simple, "I decided I'm not interested" "I've changed my mine" would help a lot.

That doesn't answer the question. The result is the same either way.

Unless you think "I decided I'm not interested" should be followed by reasons. If so, no. Just no. Nobody is required to back up "you're just not my type," and that leaves her wide open for her reasons to be picked apart and invalidated.

And what's the guy supposed to learn anyway? Change part of your personality and try again? No. Keep being you and keep looking until you find someone compatible. This is not some cheesy rom com. You're not always going to get THAT girl by trying hard enough. Just accept that you're not compatible with this person and MOVE ON.


I completely understand that women get tons of emails and it would be impossible to say, "Thanks but no thanks" to each one. However, if a relationship develops, the man/woman deserves some sort of explanation. It's hurtful when you're in a relationship with someone and that someone just decides to ignore you for no apparent reason. The man/woman spent time and energy in the relationship and deserves to be treated better. I guess the person who got coldly dumped could say, "Wow, I'm glad she/he did this now and not later. Can you imagine how much more painful it would have been if we were partnered and he/she did it?"

Either you have a strange definition of relationship, or you've gone off topic. I thought we were talking about first contact?


Yeah, I'm right there with you. The OP has gone from first contact, to exchanging a few emails, to actually being in a relationship.

How to deal with (or not deal with) first contact messages is FAR different from how to break off a relationship. And I can no longer tell which of these the OP was referring to.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 7:41:01 PM   
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You exchange emails, a few texts, meet a few times and in your view, there is a great and wonderful connection. Then the other person goes "poof" and you never hear back from him/her. (I've heard this story from both men and women.) Did he/she get into a car accident? Did some tragic strike this person? A simple, "I decided I'm not interested" "I've changed my mine" would help a lot.

Dude, you scared her off. Nobody wants a potential stalking situation on her or his hands.

So which one was it -- Pushy. . . Demanding. . . Needy. . . Clingy. . .
. . . or, All of the Above?

DreamLady

Edit - This isn't how I handle things, personally, but not everybody's like me. I can be direct to the point of bluntness, and people usually know (or should know) where they stand with me.

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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 9:36:16 PM   
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This is the stupidest thread.

There are more men than women. Thusly we do have more opportunity. But this thread is instead calling all women shallow bitches.

Preferences are a thing, on both sides.

I have my actual weight in my profile- no one has ever read it. When I point it out they disappear. If I came into a message board and whined everytime id have a lot more posts than I do now.

Dating is hard, for everyone.

Does "he look creepy" because of the context of his photos? Or is your friend shallow and now you feel like all women are assholes?
Would you date someone who you were not physically attracted to? Should those girls feel lucky you're even talking to them?

I mean really.


Yes, total bullshit. Opportunities? For what?

I get lots of emails. If I had a dollar for all the emails from men who never read my profile, we're not attractive to me, were rude, stupid, creepy, boring, way too far away, solicited sex in a way that displayed desperation and lack of finesse or any other non compatible factor, I would be a millionaire.

I am sick of the men who believe that being a woman assumes ease of finding the right person.

I am sick of some men thinking people aren't allowed to have preferences.


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RE: Women Have So Much More Opportunity - 3/17/2015 9:43:49 PM   
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Yes, total bullshit. Opportunities? For what?

I get lots of emails. If I had a dollar for all the emails from men who never read my profile, we're not attractive to me, were rude, stupid, creepy, boring, way too far away, solicited sex in a way that displayed desperation and lack of finesse or any other non compatible factor, I would be a millionaire.

I am sick of the men who believe that being a woman assumes ease of finding the right person.

I am sick of some men thinking people aren't allowed to have preferences.




If you had to bet on who would first establish a relationship:
1. A man who sends out 50 emails in 2 months and gets 0 responses
2. A woman who receives 50 emails a week and she decides to meet at least 2 men a week

Who do you think will first establish a relationship?

I understand that many men "never read my profile, rude, stupid' etc. But not all are.

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