freedomdwarf1
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ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 @freedom I've been talking to him, a lot. He never doesn't let me express my concerns, but he's going to get tired of babying me and having to repeat himself that he loves me, he's not replacing me, he wants to keep me, etc. I don't want to keep bringing it up, I want to accept it. I need to know how to do that. I need to know how to stop the knots in my stomach and the tears in my eyes when I think about them together. Hell, I want to stop thinking about them together. That's a personal jealousy issue. If you really can't keep it under control, you can't let it make the relationship toxic - which it will over time. It's a really simple case of swallowing your pride and kicking the green-eyed monster out of your life or you'll have to seriously think about leaving him. If you don't know how to do that, then you need to seek a kink-friendly therapist. Personally, I think you are soo wrapped up in your submission and stuck in subspace that you aren't able to cope with any external pressures that cause a hiccup inside your personal fantasy. And to re-iterate what someone said earlier - 5 months is a relatively short time to be thinking along life-time fantasy plans. It really isn't. I think, if you really can't get up the courage to face him with your jealousy problem, you must think along the lines of letting him go and finding another. A sub has just as much power as a dom in these situations. Don't let anyone tell you any different.
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