freedomdwarf1
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP This isn't polyamory, it's two vees. You and your husband, you and him. But hubby and daddy have no relationship. Same with him. Him and you, him and her. But you and her have no relationship. Sounds like in future you would do better to take a page from your husband's book: don't ask, don't tell. But the more you try to control his other relationships, the more you're trying to control him. It doesn't matter if he's daddy to a dozen different women. Because what he does with them doesn't take anything you need away from you. Is he meeting your needs? Great, that's all that matters. Fundamentally and logically I know you are right. Compartimentalization is a new concept for me. I think this experience will help me with that mindset Compartimentalization isn't so new to you - you managed to do that with hubby and kept your daddy relationship quite separate from your hubby and family. What you didn't want to do is precisely that with your daddy because you thought you'd have him all to yourself. It sounds to me as if you went into this arrangement blind and didn't do any research before you jumped into it. If you can't manage to keep things distinctly separate, you may have to wrestle with yourself to work out what is best for you. As I said earlier, I really hope it works out for you. But you might have to do some real soul-searching to calm the beast within.
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