Aquanerd1983
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ORIGINAL: Gauge This is a fast reply. A few observations for the OP: 1. Why invalidate your own feelings by saying that you do not want to stress him out? How do you know how he will react? 2. You must approach the situation like an adult. Explain how you are feeling and also explain that you are talking about it with him in order to keep your relationship healthy. 3. If you keep these feelings inside, they will fester and become toxic. 4. Were you included in the process of selecting this individual? Understand, I do not know your dynamic, but for myself, if this was my relationship, I would be including my submissive so all parties concerned were happy with the decision. 5. Do you feel as if you worked to become his sub and she did not? As you admitted, she is new to all of this and never had a BDSM relationship before. Sounds to me like she wants a 50 Shades of Grey experience, because, as others here have said, it should take a great deal of communication between two people so they can understand what each individual is and is not seeking. I do hope that you just level with him. In your fear of stressing him out, have you given any thought to what it is you are going through and is that not important? I will reiterate what others have said here, communication is key in any relationship, it is better to lose the relationship for being open and honest than it is to be silent and lose it anyway. You sound like you love him and that you want to keep him. Then do everything you can to keep him, and realize, if the relationship does fail, that you can find another that will be a better fit overall. You also will now have something to tell your next partner and if you talk about bringing someone else into the picture, that you would like to be involved in the process. Best of luck to you. 1. I literally can't bring up anything serious without crying, it's embarrassing 2. I'm a big babu when I'm upset or passionate about something. I try to be rational and calm but I always cry. It's dumb 3.true 4.no I wasn't. They met Sat night, hung out that Sunday, played Monday and he was calling her his sub Tues. I was very upset and he saw a side of me he'd never seen. That wasn't fun at all 5. Yes to all that. Times a million. She hasn't worked for anything except taking his licks and telling him she has no issue with him having another sub already. It's not frigging fair.
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