freedomdwarf1
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ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983 3. I've told Daddy everything but not liking his new sub. I'm keeping that to myself and trusting he will be able to make he best decision about her for himself. How I feel about her personally doesn't really matter, does it? She's not my sub or play partner. 4. implicitly. I couldn't stay with him this long if I didn't. I don't trust her. I think she's playing with him. Thes are very important issues for both you and for him. He needs to know your feelings otherwise he'll be thinking everything is hunky-dory and all Ok - when it clearly isn't for you. For any relationship to work, be it vanilla, kink, poly or anything, requires clear communication from all concerned. You aren't being clear to your daddy and that's not fair on him. You are expecting him to make the right decision with only half the info. You need to fess up with him or walk. But telling him I don't like her will make me look petty and jealous. Why would I want to do that? I'm trying to give this a chance. Maybe I'm wrong about her and she will be willing to give up the other men for him, or Daddy won't mind and he will accept their arrangement for what it is. That really isn't my call or my decision. Right? No it doesn't. It shows you are concerned for the well-being of the relationship. Not just for you, but for everyone involved in it. If he can't deal with you bringing it up, the relationship is doomed because you'll forever be walking on eggshells. As Oside said, poly only works if everyone is open and honest, otherwise it is guaranteed to fail. Her question is a very valid one: how can you NOT tell him?? He needs to know so he can address the problem. Without that info, he's shooting in the dark. That really isn't fair on him. In essence, you are lying by deception - and that isn't very nice. Don't wait until next week. Call him and tell him up front so he has time to digest it so you can both be prepared to talk about it.
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