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M/s and Age play - 9/11/2006 9:23:56 AM

dmarc

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How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s?

What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it?

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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/11/2006 9:34:45 AM

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How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s?

I didn't actively want it, but now that I have it, I'd never want to be without it.

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What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it?

Mostly it just lets me be me in that comforted loved space of a little girl.

Most of these focus on daddy/daughter play, but they all delve into the general topic of age play.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_546688/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#546972
Another daddy dom question

http://www.collarchat.com/m_541638/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#541832
How does a dom decide to be a daddy ?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_540044/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#540129
Daddy's Girl

http://www.collarchat.com/m_278285/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#278992
What exactly is a daddy dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_259176/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#259184
Are there any daddies here?

Daddy/Daughter Roleplay

Daddydoms and Babygirls

Daddy?

Daddy/little girl

Hiding Daddy's Belt

Daddy doms

Daddy's little girl

Daddy? (2)

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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/11/2006 12:59:04 PM

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one has no desire to include the Daddy dynamic. There are many things one enjoys, many ways one explores things about herself, etc - that is just not one of them. one knows there are many out there that do enjoy it - to each their own. Am sure they do not enjoy some of the things that this one does.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/11/2006 2:01:29 PM

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I would not describe the dynamic between my boyfriend and myself as M/s but I believe there is more a sense of "ownership" than a lot of people associate with D/s...so, falling somewhere in between I think Im ok answering this question although I do not identify as a "slave".

I feel as though the Daddy/daughter dynamic sort of "found me". I did not know it existed until shortly before I met my dom, and when I first encountered it, it just settled right into a space in my brain and clicked so well that I felt it was what made everything about D/s work for me. I had wanted it, but did not know what "it" was until then. When I met my dom, the dynamic seemed to fit us well...I was not specifically looking for a "Daddy Dom" (whatever that means) so much as I was looking for the right fit...who happened to be older than I am, more intelligent than I am, physically strong, spiritual and educated. For me,when you put those ingredients together, you sort of "get Daddy", so it was not surprising that once a connection was made and we began to explore one another and the potential for a dynamic between us, the Daddy/little girl thing just sort of jelled.

-I get from the dynamic permission to be "just little". Permission to let someone else be smarter and stronger than I am. Permission to not have to worry about how to manage things. I don't have to worry about anything except Being Good for Daddy. That means I don't have to analyze or over-think.

-I get from the dynamic a sense of being cared for and protected. A sense that someone bigger and stronger and better at getting along in the big world is there for me and he won't leave me to fend for myself.

-I get from the dynamic permission to be dirty with someone who loves me anyway.

And although many peopl associate ageplay and the Daddy/little girl dynamic with brattiness, I get from the dynamic an authority figure who will not let me get away with having a childish orientation toward life. There is no whining with my Daddy. There is no talking back and getting in the last word and playing silly power games because Daddy says so and Daddy has all the power. I'm not a person who is generally inclined to this type of behavior, but it's nice to have an external influence to assist me from "going there" if I am ever so inclined. Even when we are not together, through our dynamic I can find the compassion or kindness or detachment or self-control to act in a manner that would be pleasing to him. Sometimes it is easier to do it for Daddy than it is to do it for myself.

I get to feel adored. A feeling that is, in my opinion, highly under-rated among submissives.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/14/2006 3:16:40 AM

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Im no slave. for the record. But i am owned and belong to Him.

Age play is not something either of us had a notion of. We didnt understand it, we didnt seek it. It found Us! We have had to learn pretty quickly, what the fuck goes on when i get in this space. First, i thought that dressing as a school girl and having him sexually play with me, might be a way to forray into this space. I was very very wrong. My little one space, is not sexual at all. Its a place i go to, i feel 'tiny' in. He feels larger than life. I feel loved, safe, secure, adored, pampered, treasured, nurtured and above all else, SAFE. Safety is not something i experienced when i was actually small. Im sure that my need for this space stems from that.

So having tried to creat this space for us to explore, and had gotten in wrong, we posted like you have, read heaps, and take small steps into it. Its a space i have been more comfortable with as we progress. Its a space that is testiment to the trust i feel in him. Its also not how he imagined his sub would tick, so is also having to learn. From the expert on my little girl space - me. We communicate very carefully around new genres of our play, this one, is perhaps my most emotionally vulnerable one, so he takes extra care to go very slowly. Its not something that we can conjure at will, perhaps later, we will find ways that trigger it. But for now, when it occurs, we let it flow gently and enjoy. Its not the be all and end all of our relationship, rather a space that we occupy from time to time. A bonus.

Its a place that requires a lot of trust and knowledge of each other, that we have gained slowly over the time of our relationship.

go slow, enjoy, and communicate lots, as usual.
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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/14/2006 3:22:26 AM

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Heather, you stated it just right for me. The feeling of being adored...can't beat it.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/24/2006 7:29:00 PM

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I DO I DO I DO!!!!!

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RE: M/s and Age play - 9/24/2006 7:37:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: dmarc

How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s?

What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it?

this slave has no desire to be in such a dynamic. Thank God that Master does not want to either

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 1:19:37 AM

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My dom is primarily daddy since we're 2 hours away with little chance to grow the D/s D/lg is the easiest to nurture by phone.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 7:02:36 AM

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In my M/s the Daddy dynamic is heavily incorporated. Its not age play - he is just Daddy. Though i do call him Daddy in bed - its just one of the words that comes flying out of me. Its like, Daddy for us - represents the softer side of things.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 7:35:56 AM

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justheather, that was a beautiful post and mirrored almost the exact beginnings, development and feelings of my own with my Daddy. Except that my Daddy wants His babygirl to be His slave also and i am more than greatfull to have that position. There are few ends we would not go to, to secure the happiness and joy that comes with making Daddy proud.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 8:30:43 AM

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Being small, being cared for, someone actively nurturing your growth...

whats not to love ??

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 8:50:59 AM

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How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s?

What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it?

if it meant actually calling Master "Daddy", it wouldn't be a comfort for this slave, rather a mental, emotional and physical challenge to reconcile that word with ANYone this slave was in an intimate sexual relationship with.

this slave has enjoyed a diapered baby-girl/caregiver roleplay dynamic but mentally has never thought of Him as "Daddy" or referred to Him as "Daddy".

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 9:18:33 AM

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My Master is not inot that kind of roleplay and i am glad. I could never call him daddy for me that word is reserved for my real Father

Matt's littleone.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 9:26:30 PM

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How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s?

What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it?

i'm not...and have never been...in a M/s relationship....and really do not aspire to such. But....when i did belong to some M/s groups years ago, i asked a similar question.

Most there said they may have used the ageplay as a kink....a role play type of thing....a fun thing....but it really was not part of their dynamic as a norm. i certainly can't talk for them but that is what most of them said in response.

Now as for me....i am just a daddysgirl....D/s and bdsm....but no M/s...so i have no answer

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 9:30:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

Being small, being cared for, someone actively nurturing your growth...

whats not to love ??

Red,

You referred to 'being small' or 'tiny' (lol) or something similar in another thread. i LOVE that feeling....but it would never be easy for me to describe exactly what that means. i guess it is what it is!

Feeling 'little'....hehe.

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 9:35:53 PM

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I get to feel adored. A feeling that is, in my opinion, highly under-rated among submissives.

Adored is a very good descriptor. How come i can never think of these words?

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/6/2006 9:44:57 PM

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How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s?

What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it?

Mommy should be capitalized too :P
I am one of the few Mommys represented on the forums. According to Angel, part of what he gets out of our dynamic is the loving, nuturing attention of a Mommy that he didnt have growing up. His homelife was lacking, and I fill the void nicely. There is also the comfort pf being able to completely depend on someone, and enjoy things just as they are, to forget about the world at large for a while and simply play. For the most part right now, we are LD, so we are mainly on the phone, but our dynamic gets him very very deeply into his subspace. It doesnt detract from the rest of our M/s relatonship, he still has his chores and whatnot. It is just how we prefer to interact, privately and when we can get away with it publically.
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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/7/2006 6:14:21 PM

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Master and i have not tried this yet, but i have called Him Dad inadvertantly, and then quickly tried to pretend i hadn't...

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RE: M/s and Age play - 11/7/2006 7:18:46 PM

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"ORIGINAL: dmarc

How many slaves feel they want to include the Daddy/mommy dynamic into the M/s? "

It's not that i want to include it but He has called me little girl on occasion and my response to that is "yes Daddy?" it's just a natural thing for me to respond to when i'm called little girl by Him, in fact with other Doms that i have had prior to being collared by Him that is how i responded when i played with them.

"What does that dynamic help you explore and what comfort do you get from it? "

The feeling of love, caring, tenderness, understanding and the security of knowing that i am His little girl, and that He will not allow any harm to come to me if He can help it.

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