Slavetrainer2007
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ORIGINAL: Sirseeksslave
Slave one was a drug addict, con artist, liar and thief with a criminal record -- back ground check plus a call from the FBI proved those facts.
The second was lazy, a con artist and a thief.
The reason I ask is not to attract such in the future -- I was over trusting to start with and am afraid I have gone overboard in the opposite direction.
I have chatted with several slaves and subs plus gone out with a few but in person it seemed almost stilted even though I tried to relax. Guess I have been out of the dating circuit too long.
Try not to take what some on here say to you as offensive, they are just bitter for one reason or another and feel the need to make others bitter.
As for your experience and the question you ask, I understand where you are coming from. You have experience, just bad ones and you want to know if your not doing something right and attracting the wrong type of subs/slaves.
Some things you may want to look at or think about:
1) How well do you get to know a girl?maybe you are having problems with identifying what her true intentions are. In the real world their is always that physical aspect., it sometimes hinder the ability to see a persons personality. You may want to try to becoming friends with a few subs/slaves online, where you are forced to base your interest in a person on the mental aspect . You talk to enough people on here and you learn to read between the lines. IMO, it helps a person to learn to read people in real life between the lines regardless of the physical aspect.
2) maybe its not who your attracting but who you are settling for. their could be nothing wrong ( and in most cases i would say probably isnt) with the way you Dom. But personally ( in real life) i may go through 20 subs before i even consider considering one. Their are alot of subs out their and they are not all for me or my type. maybe your just settling for one the first few that come along.
3) you seem to have lost alot of self confidence or maybe you didnt have alot to to start out with for one reason or another. subs( and subs you will have to forgive me for this comparasion) are alot like babies in this aspect. if you hold a baby and you are nervous or scared or otherwise show a lack of confidence, they sense it and it upsets them and makes them very uneasy. Subs are similar in that if you show a lack of confidence in yourself they sense it. Subs want/need a confindent Master/Dom . You are someone they are handing over control, at least in part, to. They need to see your confident you can handle that and them and they need to be able to trust that you can. If you seem unsure or uncertain or nervous or edgy, they are going to have a hard time trusting you or handing control over to you. This may also put them off you all togather, as in their eyes, you dont seem ready to take control of them.
4) maybe your basing who to take as a sub/slave more on interests and/or physical attraction. The menu can have all the things you like, and the waitress may be ready to take your order, but if you cant read the menu, it isnt doing you any good. What i mean here is maybe she has the physical attraction and maybe she shares the same interest but if her personality isnt compatible with yours, the first two arent going to matter in a serious relationship. Perhaps you should focus more on her personality
These opinions are based, of course, on the info you gave. One of them may be your problem or all of them or none of them.
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