Adrenochrome
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Joined: 12/27/2004 From: Canada Status: offline
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I think that this scenario, like 99% of D/s and BDSM, depends entirely on the context of the relationship. There's no real hard and fast rule, aside from the law of the land (which, as a tangent, I would point out vary wildly from country to country in terms of what can be considered legal play), as to what constitutes abuse or damage. In my relationship with my slave, for instance, she knows and trusts that if I give her more than she can take in a punishment, it will always be for good reason. Furthermore, she knows and trusts that I would simply never cause actual harm to my favorite piece of property, and would always restrict myself to short-term pain. As a result, she knows that I will occasionally push her boundaries to drive a lesson home, but won't ever forget that my duty is to protect her. So, she suffers when I deem it proper, and I will not stop at a simple "no", but that she will nevertheless be safe with me. However, she and I have an extensive history together. For partners just starting out, I do think that safe words are a good idea. Still and all, there is always the risk that safe words won't be listened to by the Dominant in the scene, which is where the ability to call the police afterwards comes in handy. For a longer running relationship... Well, if the Master isn't committed to protecting his property, then I would question his ability, intelligence, and ethics, personally. In the end, I think that simple communication combined with not leaping in recklessly, is the key. On a long enough timeline, those elements of a relationship will allow boundaries to be pushed, punishments given out, lessons learned, and safety adhered to.
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