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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 10:50:35 AM

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Well, I am glad to see that my Master isn't the only one that likes to push limits. The whole reason I asked is because the other day Master was pushing my limits on spankings with our flogger and I started to cry after a bit but I never said my safe word which made him proud. So, has anyone had this experience?

of course

the best scene, IMO usually takes me to tears. i dont have safeword option, so kinda n/a but any time i dont say "ow" it makes D proud of me

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 11:03:46 AM

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Well, when me and Master entered into the BDSM lifestyle thing I told him I had to have a safeword I try not to use it if at all possible, and lately I haven't had to the only time I use it is when he ties me down to the bed and decides he wants to tickle me and I hate being tickled.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 11:08:31 AM

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I've never been whipped, but I cried a few times when my now ex partner spanked me. For me it is the combination of pain and aftercare that brings on subspace, not the pain itself.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 11:13:33 AM

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I cry from emotional things but not from whipping or flogging.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 11:37:25 AM

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Physical pain doesn't make me cry but hurt my feelings and i will cry - i don't like crying for those reasons though. i would love to experience what juila wrote about, i think to be able to have that release would be very emotionally cathartic for me. i lost my best friend when i was 12 and could not cry at the time... tears release pent up emotions. When i have cried over things that have really upset me it's a scary experience because you actually feel you are loosing yourself, like falling off a cliff and no ones there to catch you - so to experience this with a loving dom one day is something i look forward to - maybe coming in touch with my inner self more from the experience.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 11:38:12 AM

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 4:39:19 PM

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I cry ... I am a huge huge baby ... which is ironic because I get so turned on by pain. But as soon as it begins to hurt (which doesn't take long) I beg for Daddy to stop. And this is something that has been hard to deal with because it was so confusing at first ... it hurt, I wanted it to end, but at the same time I was so turned on and throbbing.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 5:01:26 PM

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Sometimes, sometimes not. When I'm in subspace, though, I almost never cry. In fact, I'm generally motionless. It's like I'm processing the things happening on the outside deep on the inside. It's the most amazing feeling in the world.

As far as other reactions, though, generally I'm a squirmer.

The only scene that was ever stopped was not because I used a safeword, but because Daddy sensed something was wrong. I wasn't processing the pain in my normal fashion and was having negative, aggressive responses to stimuli.

Even though the scen stopped and didn't continue...this was the moment that my trust in Him was finally tested. He saw something wrong and stopped. The end. He didn't try to fix it, until we both calmed down. That's trust for ya.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 5:04:41 PM

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Tears come easily to me, but the real release is in the release that happens when he takes charge. He knows me well enough to know my limits, and like most Doms who are truly worth their salt, he pays attention. Tears do not phase him near as much as the sobs when I approach my limit, and he knows instinctively just how much I can truly take.
If I could give those that read this one thing to take from it, I would say that the key to this whole relationship (D/s, BDSM or M/s) is all in the trust and knowlege of your partner.
I cannot imagine handing a stranger my life and blindly being tied to a bed with no idea of his intentions. Many new subs do just this, and from that practice comes the horror stories you read. If you do not beleive me, just contact me and I will tell you of a girl who did just that. There are too many out there taking these risks. Be careful all. Tears are not a problem, but death or mutilation is.
Be safe and be well all. Enjoy the love of each other while you may.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 6:49:14 PM

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Well me and my Master are new to this so he learning to know my limits. I wouldn't have entered into this kind of relationship with someone I didn't know and trust. So, I guess when you are new things are hard to gauge.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:24:59 PM

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yea, im a cryer. always have been, always will be

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:40:08 PM

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Okay my question is: does anyone else end up crying during a session when being whipped?

i have cried, sobbed, laughed, swore, threatened, hummed, turned to hit back, and even taunted during a session. it all depends on the headspace i am in at that time and where he is leading the session into going.

my Lord want his slaves to be totally free in our responces to Him when He plays us, He will control and direct those responce how he in the way He wishes the play to go. we are to just be there reacting naturally.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:51:24 PM

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Im almost disappointed if I dont cry because I really love the particular kind of release it brings.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:58:14 PM

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Okay my question is: does anyone else end up crying during a session when being whipped?

Greetings A/all,
i cry often when Master gives me pain. my tears are the essence of my pain and my pleasure made tangible in liquid form, He desires them and my body complies without reserve. Initially i would try not to cry...it did not work...now i have embraced this as part of my response to Him and revel in the moment that is giving rise to such profound feelings of vulnerability and surrender.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 8:17:50 PM

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I do, whether I'm flogged or spanked.
I'm generally fairly quiet when being flogged/spanked, depending on my head space at the time (not to be confused with subspace) and/or the force behind the blows.
After a certain degree of pain, it starts out with bursts of laughter/giggles, to a continuous laughter, to a few moments of silence, to a few cry outs, to a continuous sobbing.
I think the combination of the laughter and sobbing are emotional releases from past "stuff".

I've made it to the edge of subspace once, being spanked, it was one of the best moments of my life.
I look forward to the day that I make it there completely.

May i ask - What is subspace?

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 8:34:55 PM

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hi
sometimes, yes, i cry. As others have stated, it leads to a wonderful feeling of release. He often kisses my wet cheeks gently which, of course, makes me cry even more.
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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 9:06:40 PM

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I do, whether I'm flogged or spanked.
I'm generally fairly quiet when being flogged/spanked, depending on my head space at the time (not to be confused with subspace) and/or the force behind the blows.
After a certain degree of pain, it starts out with bursts of laughter/giggles, to a continuous laughter, to a few moments of silence, to a few cry outs, to a continuous sobbing.
I think the combination of the laughter and sobbing are emotional releases from past "stuff".

I've made it to the edge of subspace once, being spanked, it was one of the best moments of my life.
I look forward to the day that I make it there completely.

May i ask - What is subspace?

Subspace....

http://www.collarchat.com/m_195635/mpage_1/key_subspace/tm.htm#195872

If you do a search at the top of the page for subspace, you'll get tons of threads on it.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 9:42:17 PM

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Dom loves to make me cry. i have always been the type NOT to cry...He knows this and is all the more satisfied when i finally do. The pain doesn't usually make me cry. The emotions of submitting and losing the battle of my . He values it more because of my battle. It's mostly the intimacy of Him being the only one able to make me cry.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 10:02:39 PM

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Yep.

When I first returned to the center and started playing again, I ended up playing casually with a team -- a dominant and his evil henchgirl -- who'd have me howling in no time. Warm up? What's that? It took a few sessions, but they eventually got me crying. The henchgirl coo'ed at me while letting me know that I was doing very well ... because her Daddy had a kink for tears and I was making him very happy. Thus, I got encouragement to cry fairly early on.

The first time I cried while playing with my own Daddy, it was a spanking scene at someone's birthday party. Unfortunately, I didn't realize that crying would freak Daddy out. He stopped within minutes of me starting to cry, made sure that I had water and fed me strawberries. While the water was nice and the berries quite tasty, I was a little confused ... had I done something wrong? Why'd he stop?

We discussed this later on that night, and I found out that he'd never quite adjusted to the idea that it was okay to make a bottom cry. He heard it as a sort of non-verbal safeword, which is not how I'd meant it at all. Indeed, crying actually ends up being a release valve for me: it keeps me holding still, it keeps me from safewording, it buys me some time to take more before I throw in the towel. He stopped just as I was prepareing to take more.

Okay, granted -- I didn't realize that until he stopped, so that evening was a learning experience for both of us ... especially as Daddy has a kink for tears as well. At present, my starting to cry gets read as a "yellow," and I get a pause and water and treats and kisses, then get warned that further crying will be ignored. I nod and sniffle and finish my water and we go on and I scream bloody murder and pretty everything else I can think of that isn't a safeword.

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RE: Crying - 4/2/2007 7:06:16 AM

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Master doen not whip me it is not his style. However when i am displined and he uses his hand i usually do cry. Master hates to see me cry and i always get aftercare. So i guess my answer is yes i do cry.

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