JWriter
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Removing sex from BDSM is akin to cutting the roots of a tree; afterward the leaves will brown and the tree will die. To argue that BDSM is not sexually based is walking up a steep hill with a heavy pack of dubious astrology books on your back. BDSM is not a church-like affair, despite its rituals, protocols, authority dynamics, punishments, rules, and sacred paraphernalia. But, its easy to see how some might confuse religious feelings and spiritual sacredness with BDSM excitement. So, I agree with H, The root driver of BDSM is one's sex drive. For comparison, consider Homo-erotic relationships -- even with their candles, poems, fancy clothes, co-mingling of finances, lay therapy, exercise regimens, and other non corporal mores --- sex is the gas which that fuels the gay, pink bus against the grain of genetic oblivion. (Although marriage allowances might end up killing the sex part....) Wow! That's amazing. Amazingly amazing, because, when I started, 30 years ago, everything you just said right there would have been disgusting VANILLA SPEAK, since only vanilla people thought that BDSM was all about sex, and, that was exactly the trite bullshite we were all trying to keep out of it, so that it would not be degraded down to a pornorific good time for everyone, that mostly ignored all the good mental, spiritual and social aspects of BDSM. Everything that you just said, would have gotten you blacklisted. My, how times do change! You let a few fetishists slip through, and, the whole barrel is spoiled. lol
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