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ORIGINAL: budda1488

why is it so hard to find a slave who can handle the blessings i give through the paddle or whatever? I have needs also.

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not new to bdsm been a master for years, am new to the scene usually have a more personal relation

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

I like the responses, thank you , what I mean is that even when warming up , and nothing too severe they quit sometimes but when i'm sadistic they take it harder then they do as when going soft. more of a question to figure things out, maybe looking fo ra different approach. as far as emotional i think I'm too coddley but have ahd some say that i don't have emotion? this was more of a question to seek different opinions .

Well, in my experience, and this is just me so take it for whatever you think it's worth, I've found that different implements get different reactions from different people and those reactions can change from day to day. One sub I played with considered herself a pain slut but she hated the cane. She couldn't handle it for long no matter how much warm up I gave her so I only used it when I was feeling particularly sadistic and wanted to punish her. I also learned I don't like a punishment dynamic, but that's a topic for another thread.

A friend of mine can handle a lot of pain with barely a whimper. It's actually kind of scary to witness, but in a good way, if that makes sense. But she hates the cold. I put a bag of frozen strawberries on her nether regions and then proceeded to do knife play on her. She didn't last too long but it was super fun.

What I'm getting at here is that you may need to change what things you're using, whether crop, cane, paddle, etc., to figure out what they can take more of and what you have to use with less force. And it's still going to change from day to day since mood plays an important role. A change in lighting, sound, texture of the rope you used for bondage - all of those things factor into the overall ambiance. You might have to spend some time experimenting to figure out what works and what doesn't.

But experimenting is fun, right? FOR SCIENCE!

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

I like the responses, thank you , what I mean is that even when warming up , and nothing too severe they quit sometimes but when i'm sadistic they take it harder then they do as when going soft. more of a question to figure things out, maybe looking fo ra different approach. as far as emotional i think I'm too coddley but have ahd some say that i don't have emotion? this was more of a question to seek different opinions .

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ORIGINAL: budda1488

yes i do but I give for them and I would expect them to also give for me, at times when i need. I believe it is 2 sided i submit and by that I mean i go softer for them when they need it and i expect them to do the same when i need it. otherwise I look at it as greedy