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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 4:58:34 PM

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u can spel? r u sur?

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 5:02:11 PM

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It would be quite awful indeed, but for how many people would it be the truth? How many other people at 49 don't have a journal that says "woke, work, ate, slept" for the first entry and "ditto" for the next ten thousand? If you have 49 years worth of really living, then you should be quite proud, for you're an exception and not the standard. It's not the length of your life that matters, it's the density of it.

Woke, work, ate, slept.

That sounds like a foreign-language translation of my fiance's journal.

He'd write it more like - Woke up, went to work at the small internet security startup I've seen grow over the past few years, spent 8 hours solving problems that are essential to making sure internet banking is not only stable, but progressing as well, spent another hour or two in overtime fixing the mistakes of my predecessors and stabilizing what we do so we can move forward, came home tired but proud I'm able to provide for my woman, lay down in bed and relaxed while my fiance cooked me a wonderful dinner, spent hours in bed talking with her and playing computer games together, then curled up and fell asleep content with my future wife in my arms.

My fiance isn't rich or famous, but he's a brilliant man, incredibly talented at his work, a strong provider and I know he's going to make a wonderful husband. People have this misconception that "really living" involves some type of extreme event like travel or partying or making a lot of money...but really "really living" is building a life for yourself that makes you happy.

That's what we're doing, and honestly I consider myself 'really living' more than people I know who, say, party and hitchhike across the continent but still feel empty inside.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 5:16:27 PM

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 5:19:03 PM

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Well, if you feel you're growing from that, then you're obviously not the type of people I'm talking about. (Is everyone here so insecure that they feel the need to defend themselves against me?)

There's a lot in life to see, study, and experience. Many skip out on the study and experience bit, and have tunnel vision. They're the ones I'm talking about. You don't need to do anything extreme, but routine can quickly become the enemy.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 5:28:45 PM

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Well, if you feel you're growing from that, then you're obviously not the type of people I'm talking about. (Is everyone here so insecure that they feel the need to defend themselves against me?)

There's a lot in life to see, study, and experience. Many skip out on the study and experience bit, and have tunnel vision. They're the ones I'm talking about. You don't need to do anything extreme, but routine can quickly become the enemy.

Ah okay, I don't really know anyone like that so I couldn't say.

But I can say I don't see anyone insecurely defending themselves from you, just a few people who disagree with what you have to say who are willing to expand on why that is. That's the wonderful thing about stating your opinion in a public place - you get a bunch of people saying how right you are, and twice that saying how wrong you are

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 5:53:12 PM

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No, it's just that they bring themselves up as examples. If you want to refute my point, refute my point. Don't bring up anecdotes that disagree.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 6:04:22 PM

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Im just curious what the fansination with younger subissives (18-23) that older dominat (40-100) have.
Please help me understand.

Age doesn't have a lot to do with why I pick a female..Although I wouldn't say it has nothing to do with it. You have "issues" inherit with one or the other but mostly people are just people.

I've always went after women older than me..From my point of view they can be great but can tend to have problems conforming to what it is that you want if they have become set in their ways or have been through the ringer. It doesn't give them a free pass with me..I expect them to respond with the same kindness and respect that is given to them from me and not base their reactions on what their past is.

I've recently tried talking to a few younger females. Very friendly and upbeat and easy to get along with for the most part and they can be more compliant..straight off but they have "issues" as well..they tend to be a little more fickle, less likely to know themselves/what they want...

In the end..Age doesn't really matter..No one age group is better than the next..We all have our own "issues" to deal with so look for what fits you as a person..Believe me..I know it's frustrating finding that match..

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 6:21:35 PM

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Between two years younger and ten years older. You're still far off balance. I wouldn't mind fooling around with someone ten years my elder, but a relationship? Please. I know it can work as I've seen it myself, but I'd rather play roulette than gamble on those odds.

Actually, if you consider maturity levels, it's not that different. I've been married, divorced, and have a child. a 37 year old is much more able to handle that than a 24 year old, for the most part. There are, of course, exceptions, but as a general rule....I do better with those older because i've gone through more in my life than those a little younger.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 6:44:23 PM

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It's not the length of your life that matters, it's the density of it.

Sooooo what... you want to be viewed as DENSE, then?!! Fine... you got it!!!

Additionally, you wrote:

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It always gets under my skin when I see subs my age with similar interests, who end their lengthy profiles with, "oh, btw, only looking for guys 40+ lol." It's like I might as well leave the community for a decade or so then come back. Probably wasting my time until then, anyway.

You're really coming off as quite the "boo-hoo" cry-baby here (and not doing yourself any favors) simply because some sub/slave girls your own age don't want you, but someone older. Chances are "maturity" (not age or income) was the basis for their decision. Most aren't too fond of the whining you've done here.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 7:37:08 PM

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Forsooth, your barbs strike true to the heart of the matter.

No, not really. If I see a girl is only looking for guys older than me, I just don't send her a message. I think that's the fair thing to do, isn't it?

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 8:17:16 PM

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Well, if you feel you're growing from that, then you're obviously not the type of people I'm talking about. (Is everyone here so insecure that they feel the need to defend themselves against me?)

This is a message board. You want to post an opinion? Expect to get responses to it. Thats how it works. And 9.9 times out of ten, the responses are going to be anecdotal as in "well in my relationship its like this..." or "in my experience this.." Don't take it personally.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 8:25:46 PM

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Yes, I'm aware. I'm kind of a big frequenter of forums and such.

This is like, debate 101 though.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 8:26:44 PM

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I think lots of subs want a Daddy...and likewise the older men might want a "baby" or a "princess" to spoil.

Plus, for many people older = more authoritative, experienced, and assertive.

Younger people are taught to respect their elders so I think this aides the dynamic from the beginning.

Plus, it is not just Dom men/sub women that are drawn to the May/December relationship. This has been going on since the beginning of time. Psychologically young women represent youthfulness and fertility. Older men represent security. Like it or hate it but this isn't going to change anytime soon.

And I hope it doesn't. I have always fantasized about men about 20 years older than me. When I was in my teens I wished for a man in his 30's...in my 20's I sought out men in their 40's...and now in my 30's I fantasize of a Master in his 50's. Don't know what it is...maybe when I am in my 60's I'll finally get lucky and find a man in his 80's. If I can remember why I was looking for him by then!

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 9:03:40 PM

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Yes, I'm aware. I'm kind of a big frequenter of forums and such.

This is like, debate 101 though.

It's not really a debate though. Nobody's saying "this side is right, this side is wrong" they're simply answering the question of why some submissives prefer older dominants.

And generally "I do it because..." or "I don't do it because..." is the type of answer the OP is looking for.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 9:26:21 PM

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If I see a girl is only looking for guys older than me, I just don't send her a message...

You omitted the part where you sulk

, then come here and WHINE about it... as you did below...

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It always gets under my skin when I see subs my age with similar interests, who end their lengthy profiles with, "oh, btw, only looking for guys 40+ lol." It's like I might as well leave the community for a decade or so then come back. Probably wasting my time until then, anyway.

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 10:11:43 PM

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If you want to refute my point, refute my point. Don't bring up anecdotes that disagree.

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Is everyone here so insecure that they feel the need to defend themselves against me?

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Yes, I'm aware. I'm kind of a big frequenter of forums and such.

This is like, debate 101 though.

Really? 'Casue it doesn't really seem like you are aware of it. My point was people are responding to the thread to share their own opinions, not to debate with you or change your mind. They share their experience because that is their source of information on the subject. Are people on a message board going to come up with objective, empirical evidence to support their opinions about age and D/s relationships? Heck no! they are going to tell stories about how it works for them. Its not a debate, its a conversation. You may be a master debater (hee hee) the rest of us are just "talking."

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/7/2009 10:26:59 PM

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You may be a master debater (hee hee) the rest of us are just "talking."

LOL!

I'm yet another fsub who prefers older Doms, usually 5-15 years my senior. I've always preferred the company of those older than myself, so it's not really surprising that I'm attracted to older guys. It's never been a problem... until I crank up the stereo and put on Linkin Park or bad 80's hair bands, anyway

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/8/2009 6:39:29 AM

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You omitted the part where you sulk , then come here and WHINE about it... as you did below...

Wow, you certainly seem to be enthralled with me, huh? Here you go, I'm giving you attention now! Don't you feel so fulfilled?

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/8/2009 9:46:52 AM

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It always gets under my skin when I see subs my age with similar interests, who end their lengthy profiles with, "oh, btw, only looking for guys 40+ lol." It's like I might as well leave the community for a decade or so then come back. Probably wasting my time until then, anyway.

Yeah... no "attention" seeking here. Yanno, statistically, one in four people suffer from mental illness... think of three friends; if they're fine, then it's YOU!!!

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RE: why do older dominat seek yonger subimssives/slaves? - 12/8/2009 11:40:36 AM

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Wow, you certainly seem to be enthralled with me, huh? Here you go, I'm giving you attention now! Don't you feel so fulfilled?

Excuse me, sir... are you a goon?

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