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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

so I see...and stand corrected. How foolish it is for lil me to actually have a thought of my own. I'll hush now and learn of my own thoughtlessness.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

A mature woman would look at those things and reject you in the blink of an eye.  Young girls are just happy to be with someone who isn't an asshole and who has enough money to pay for a decent dinner and it would never occur to them to discuss how your 401k is doing and whether or not you have one.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Let's see, you are 26 and the OP was refering to women between 18 and 25 not to mention my post wasn't intended to refer to ALL women and obviously on average, 18 year old girls are just not going to have the life experience of a 25 year old.  Don't confuse yourself with the average.

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ORIGINAL: Faramir

No no--he knows it all.  Just look at his rayon shirt!  That's someone who knows their shirt.  Errr, shit.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
A mature woman would look at those things and reject you in the blink of an eye.  Young girls are just happy to be with someone who isn't an asshole and who has enough money to pay for a decent dinner and it would never occur to them to discuss how your 401k is doing and whether or not you have one.

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ORIGINAL: N4SDChastity
Don't hate.  For all you know, he killed each and every one of those Rayons with his bare hands...

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ORIGINAL: lapresence

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
I enjoy looking at young women and they are fun to take to dinner but I want to wake up next to a woman my age with whom I can discuss the morning paper.

That is such bull!!  I'm 26 and I can talk on any range of topics, particularly social and economic issues.  You might lose me in engineering or computers, but I can usually ask relevant questions to further my understanding.  

On the other hand, I've talked to an occasional 40 and 50 year old person who just doesn't get it.  It has little to do with age, and has more to do with how open you are to listening and learning from others. 

To the OP, I can't answer for the Doms, but I know as a sub I tend towards an older Dom.  But more particularly experienced ones.  I want someone who is responsible and has knowledge of whatever they chose to do before they take me on as a submissive. 

Peace out,

presence

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ORIGINAL: shyinini

Why do you, Dom, want a young woman sub/slave 
if you are over 40?

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ORIGINAL: scorpius80

I think you will find that happens only really with Dom's Domme's usually want someone arond their age or older.  When I was 16 and i had become interedted in this not many Dommes would eve speak to me, ui think it has caused a lot of built up frustration and a bit of mistrust in me because I feel like no one would train me, teach me or give me a chance. By the time I found someone to teach me, I was in a vanill realtionship, what are you gonna do??

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Let's see, you are 26 and the OP was refering to women between 18 and 25 not to mention my post wasn't intended to refer to ALL women and obviously on average, 18 year old girls are just not going to have the life experience of a 25 year old.  Don't confuse yourself with the average.

I'm in the age range and took offense to your comments. Life experience and age are NOT equivalent. Period. There are sheltered 60 year olds who don't have a clue and 12 year olds who already know how to raise children. there are always exceptions and more often than not those exceptions are gonna point themselves out in a glaring obvious way. Hello Mr. Oblivious

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ORIGINAL: hisannabelle

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
A mature woman would look at those things and reject you in the blink of an eye.  Young girls are just happy to be with someone who isn't an asshole and who has enough money to pay for a decent dinner and it would never occur to them to discuss how your 401k is doing and whether or not you have one.

eh, am i just an anomaly? because i am much happier with someone who may not LOOK wealthy but has a steady job and several job offers, two retirements, a 401k, and stocks. so we go to the local stir fry place for dinner a lot more often than we hit the melting pot...at least i know that he's not going to lose his house two weeks down the road.

and i can actually discuss the morning paper, thanks. :)

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ORIGINAL: shyinini

Why do you, Dom, want a young woman sub/slave 
if you are over 40?

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ORIGINAL: Travelino

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ORIGINAL: shyinini

Why do you, Dom, want a young woman sub/slave 
if you are over 40?

Hi there,shyinini. 

From what I can see from your original question, you are asking  the reason a 40+ year old male person would want a submissive who is 18-25 years of age.  It also looks like some are taking this as a personal jab at themselves.  I have yet to read to this thread in its entirety(due to the needless combativeness that ensued on the first page).  I see this as a valid question, although quite a open ended question, and it deserves the responder's opinion regarding how *they* feel it applies to them.  Of course, I may be wrong, here.

I am unable to give an opinion on *why* I would choose someone 15+ years younger than myself, simply due to the fact I have been involved with women who have *had* offspring of that agegroup, and I just get an icky feeling at even the thought.  When I refer to dominant/submissive relationships, there is likely going to some activities that are going to be somewhat VERY intimate, and I have issues with being very intimate with someone who could be my daughter.  Just my take on the original query.

I *may* go through this thread(it appears very long, for a currently unknown reason) just to see if the question you posed can be answered intelligently.  Maybe there can be some light shed on subject for me, something I may have missed during my years growing up.  It does look like some of the responders, szobras , dogobedience , and  Argentopal were able to address your query, as it applies to them.  Thank you for your input, as it covered some angles that never entered my head nor my life.

My apologies for being unable to aid you in your curiosities.

Travelino.

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ORIGINAL: Argentopal

OK, well, here i will take a stabe at this one.  I am soon to be 55 and Argent is 53.  We would both like to fine a lady a good bit younger than us, in her 20's is good.  Why?  Because we want to make a difference in her life.  Yes we want the Ds and the fun stuff and the kinky stuff, but any girl we have as a part of out home (live in, 3rd. poly ...) will be special and important to us.  She will not be a casual play partner, she will be cherished and loved. 

We would want to help make a difference in all areas of her life.  We would hope to help her grow and learn about her submissivness, her service oriented self and her pain loving self and her obdient self.  We would hope to provide her a safe haven from which to learn about the bdsm world around her.  We would hope to be a helpful influence to her in her "real life" as well, from choices about continuing her education if she so choose to a career path if she wanted to work outside our home.  We know the fact that we are that much older leaves a real chance that we will pass on before she does, by a number of years possibly, so, if she was to remain ours for that long we would hope to instill in her the self reliance and confidence to stand on her own at that time, or to choose another to serve with the knowledge that she would choose safely and wisely.
Does that help any?
MsOpal