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DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 10:46:01 AM

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I've been around this lifestyle for close to 10 years. Studied longer.
Lately I've been coming across the term DaddyDom's more often.
I know - as with many things - there are many definitions (and the final one will be with the couple).
But would someone please help me understand what some of the meanings to the term is.

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 10:49:07 AM

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http://www.collarchat.com/m_668543/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#668698
Age play dynamics

http://www.collarchat.com/m_580865/mpage_1/key_age%252Cplay/tm.htm#580890
Ms and age play

http://www.collarchat.com/m_546688/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#546972
Another daddy dom question

http://www.collarchat.com/m_541638/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#541832
How does a dom decide to be a daddy ?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_540044/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#540129
Daddy's Girl

http://www.collarchat.com/m_278285/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#278992
What exactly is a daddy dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_259176/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#259184
Are there any daddies here?

Daddy/Daughter Roleplay

Daddydoms and Babygirls

Daddy?

Daddy/little girl

Hiding Daddy's Belt

Daddy doms

Daddy's little girl

Daddy? (2)

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 11:29:04 AM

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i can only speak for the dynamic that i live in...and of course LA came up with a ton of great thinks as she always does.

But, even though i am living in a M/s relationship with a Daddy Dom i am STILL learning exactly what that is about....
Alot about our relationship is about teaching, guiding and that type of thing....i expected soft and sweet and nurturing...and that is PART of it but, having never had a Dad of my own i really only had imaginary concepts of what a Daddy would be.

Some times it means putting your foot down and not budging...sometimes it means being detached enough to watch as i struggle with obediance and acceptance...not enabling me but rather watching as i process everything....and sometimes i just get to be Daddy's little girl, snuggled up in bed under the covers being forced to stay warm and cozy.

There is so much more to it, but alot has of our relationship has to do with a balance of sweet loving Daddy making me feel beautifully small and safe...making me learn the lessons that he is trying to teach.

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 8:41:19 PM

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I really think as much as anything it's a matter of relabeling what may be just as present in any other 'type' of D/s relationship. And like all the others, can mean vastly different things to different people. For me it would revolve around a core of nurturing and a sense of protection with a modicum of structure added as necessary. I'm not (especially) bratty and dont seek discipline or punishment; and I would do VERY badly in a dynamic that included regular doses of either. For others, they seek Parent/child for just those things. I consider myself rather childlike both inside and outside of a romantic relationship, but I'm rarely 'childish' and can take care of myself and mine just fine.

So, in general, I think Parent/child is just a way some couples 'tint' the colors they use to paint their relationship with. But as for the actual dynamic, that can vary as widely as the motivations for seeking this particular flavor of D/s. Kinda vague, I know. So try the links on the following page as well. They dont describe everyone's Parent/child or ageplay relationship, but will give you a good glimpse into a common type. http://www.geocities.com/midnite_angel1/index.html

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 9:06:11 PM

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I think Luckyalbatross has it pretty well covered this subject with the links there, have not gone to them myself, but again like any D/s BDSM relationship there are many variances where people only adopt what they consider the norm in a Daddy Dom/baby girl relationship or just a small part, and like anything else there are extremes in all lifestyles.

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 9:07:54 PM

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Well written mythi

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 9:20:41 PM

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I am in a Daddy/little girl relationship. We do not participate in age play...nothing wrong with it, just not our thing. For me, the moniker is soothing and protective. Being His "little girl" invokes His nurturing and protective nature. I read a really good description of it here... http://vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html. It makes the most sense to me out of all of the definitions I've seen.

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/25/2007 9:47:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: charismagirrl

i can only speak for the dynamic that i live in...and of course LA came up with a ton of great thinks as she always does.

But, even though i am living in a M/s relationship with a Daddy Dom i am STILL learning exactly what that is about....
Alot about our relationship is about teaching, guiding and that type of thing....i expected soft and sweet and nurturing...and that is PART of it but, having never had a Dad of my own i really only had imaginary concepts of what a Daddy would be.

Some times it means putting your foot down and not budging...sometimes it means being detached enough to watch as i struggle with obediance and acceptance...not enabling me but rather watching as i process everything....and sometimes i just get to be Daddy's little girl, snuggled up in bed under the covers being forced to stay warm and cozy.

There is so much more to it, but alot has of our relationship has to do with a balance of sweet loving Daddy making me feel beautifully small and safe...making me learn the lessons that he is trying to teach.

cherry,
thanks for sharing your thoughts. Do you think it was easier to be involved with since you said you never had a Dad? i have been involved with Doms who requested that but it in some ways was very difficult for me. i did it but i have a father who i call Daddy and he has been there for me almost my entire life. i am at a loss about this and wonder if this is a way to differentiate between a Dom who might be more sadistic.

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/26/2007 12:55:45 AM

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There are many variances in the Daddy Dom/baby girl area and there are sadistic Daddy Dom’s also, so the name Daddy Dom is not to differentiate between real Dads and Daddy Dom’s although my first Dominant was not a Daddy Dom or he did not consider himself one, he was a bit that way in my own opinion and that is what I want a Daddy Dom for the next one,

I have two mentors that are Daddy Dom’s who I respect enormously and yes some do have age play but I don’t get into that, and some subbies like to be younger in all they do including drawing pictures, this is not me either, some do but each to their own,

I love the Daddy Dom/baby girl relationship, they are closer I think than the usual Master/sub/slave relationship but then that is just my opinion, more of a teaching Dom I think.

Both of my mentors go into teaching mode when I asked questions I roll my eyes but I love it. I was also raised by my father who is very much a Dominant along with my brother who is very much a Dominant; I did not have a mother about, till my dad married again when I was older.

I am comfy in that environment all male and all Dominants, and that father figure and a brother who protected me also. I have been the submissive since I was a wee thing, driving Dominants crazy – and I still do

I have always had a younger disposition for as long as i can remember, i do have responsibility etc i am an adult but i am very much a kid at heart and i want to please my Daddy Dom (not my dad) .

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/26/2007 1:19:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ennaozzie

There are many variances in the Daddy Dom/baby girl area and there are sadistic Daddy Dom’s also, so the name Daddy Dom is not to differentiate between real Dads and Daddy Dom’s although my first Dominant was not a Daddy Dom or he did not consider himself one, he was a bit that way in my own opinion and that is what I want a Daddy Dom for the next one,

I have two mentors that are Daddy Dom’s who I respect enormously and yes some do have age play but I don’t get into that, and some subbies like to be younger in all they do including drawing pictures, this is not me either, some do but each to their own,

I love the Daddy Dom/baby girl relationship, they are closer I think than the usual Master/sub/slave relationship but then that is just my opinion, more of a teaching Dom I think.

Both of my mentors go into teaching mode when I asked questions I roll my eyes but I love it. I was also raised by my father who is very much a Dominant along with my brother who is very much a Dominant; I did not have a mother about, till my dad married again when I was older.

I am comfy in that environment all male and all Dominants, and that father figure and a brother who protected me also. I have been the submissive since I was a wee thing, driving Dominants crazy – and I still do

I have always had a younger disposition for as long as i can remember, i do have responsibility etc i am an adult but i am very much a kid at heart and i want to please my Daddy Dom (not my dad) .

beanie

thanks so much for giving your explanation !!

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RE: DaddyDom's - 5/26/2007 1:41:00 AM

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i think everyone here had done a great job at summing everything up. i do want to point out that yes there are different versions of the Daddy Dom/little girl/boy dynamic. in which i have both of them in my life by the way of two Doms. one who owns me and one whom is a very very dear friend of mine.

i have my own Dom whom does like to do the Daddy Dom/baby girl age play, which is perfect for me because i do have an inner child that he likes to cherish and protect, maybe spoil a little bit. i mean He does have children so its not for a lack of children its just that he likes to be a Daddy and with this dynamic you have to figure, most age play children rarly grow up. so He can have his little baby girl forever in a sense.

then theres another Dom whom is a friend whom i consider a Daddy Dom. but with him its more a protective Father figure over me as an adult. granted when ever W/we have played, always in group scenes, i am a little school girl but that is more in the ways of the adult little school girl. He does know my inner child is there and doesn't want to bring her out when W/we have ever played but he also knows that she does lend alot to me in the sense of when i am a school girl and such.

and btw i know this is under the ask a Master section, but just wanted to point out another opinion.

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