Aswad
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit Thank you Aswad. This is actually a better description of what I am saying. YW. Glad I could help. Been feeling like I'm stumbling over the words lately. quote:
Testing and trials was a poor choice of wording. They imply that I am purposefuly testing my girl's submission out of a need for reassurance. Some actually do that, whether for that reason or others, which I'm not dismissing. Just saying it isn't my cup of tea, and apparently not yours either. It wasn't such a poor choice of words, though, they've just become very loaded over time. quote:
I am implying that I have standards and what I want and I expect over time the slave to conform and mold to them. ~nod~ quote:
Its just the more difficult the standard is, the more depth I feal in the relationship. A journeys bring people together, and submission/slavery is a journey. Particularly with a demanding dominant/owner. Some set out for perfection, and see how far one can get. Others have a specific destination in mind. That, and a sub/slave that has been tailored to your wants, needs and desires is one that is "designed" to please you, and one you can attach yourself to more deeply. Plus, that ingrained fear that most people seem to have- the fear of being abandoned by a loved one- becomes more distant the more "entangled" you become. When you are the piece that completes the puzzle, yet also only completes that puzzle, you are inclined to hold on to it, though that sounds more cynical than the concept is in my mind. quote:
I'm not trying to imply that I am in fact going out of my way to make her life hell solely so I can feal validated. I don't think anyone thought that, at least not as you put it now. Your posts have generally been accurate, insightful and sensible. And I, for one, never got the impression you have that addiction. (Yes, validation can be an addiction for some, I think; explains a lot.)
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"If God saw what any of us did that night, he didn't seem to mind. From then on I knew: God doesn't make the world this way. We do." -- Rorschack, Watchmen.
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