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How do you cope? - 8/25/2006 8:59:21 PM

greysunnydays

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So, I'm currently under consideration, as a slave in Sir's household. I have only been here three weeks, but have already froemd a heavy attachment to him. I won't say I'm inlove...but I'm in quite a bit of like with the Man. My issue is that He's gone for the weekend. I'm missing Him. I've slept with Him every night for three weeks, and it seems strange to me He's suddenly just up and gone. He's at GLLA and it's only 'till Sunday..but that seems like forever.....and I don't know what to do. I'm curious how others cope if their Master is gone for any length of time...(Say a few days.) Do you snuggle up in his t-shirt or what?

It wasn't that bad until I just talked to him a couple of minutes go, he's only an hour away..but he's not here..and....-Sigh.- Someone help please!!

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/25/2006 9:44:52 PM

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/25/2006 10:06:18 PM

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So, I'm currently under consideration, as a slave in Sir's household. I have only been here three weeks, but have already froemd a heavy attachment to him. I won't say I'm inlove...but I'm in quite a bit of like with the Man. My issue is that He's gone for the weekend. I'm missing Him. I've slept with Him every night for three weeks, and it seems strange to me He's suddenly just up and gone. He's at GLLA and it's only 'till Sunday..but that seems like forever.....and I don't know what to do. I'm curious how others cope if their Master is gone for any length of time...(Say a few days.) Do you snuggle up in his t-shirt or what?

It wasn't that bad until I just talked to him a couple of minutes go, he's only an hour away..but he's not here..and....-Sigh.- Someone help please!!

Im not in your shoes, but if I were, it would cross my mind to do something that would keep him close in my mind....but something productive rather than viewing his absense as a negative thing that has to be survived. Do something that will make you feel good.... Do something for and about him. Fix up an area of the house for him...like maybe make a special reading area for him with a new lamp and a comfy chair and ottoman...ok maybe thats corny, but you know what I mean...try to think of something that he would find pleasurable to come home to. Give yourself a pedicure and a manicure so you'll look nice for him. Maybe go out and get some exotic foods so you can surprise him with a really special meal for the day he returns. If you do something like this, it may help you focus on his return rather than on his absense. :) Good luck!!

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/25/2006 10:54:11 PM

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I had a peek at your profile, I am a tad confused, why does it say you are single travelling the country looking?

I was also wondering what glla is and why he did not take you with him?

Just wondering cause the answers may assist in giving you suggestions to assist in your situation

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/25/2006 11:25:06 PM

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GLLA does seem to be eating lost of stuff round here (GLLA = Great lakes leather aliance, a weekend regional event here in indiana), it ate my local munch this weekend. I can't answer this as a sub (as I'm not), but as someone who deals with the loneliness of seperation and distance on occasion, I'd say find something to focus on. If you can find something not him, great, if not, then work on something that will focus your mind on the process and not the time. Write him a story, or about how you feel and how he affects you, or fantasies you have with and about him. I find writing a good way of thinking through and venting strong emotions at the same time (and it sounds like you are getting hit by lots of strong emotions right now). Failing that, heavy exersize can be enough to take over your head for a while. See if you can find a good book. Go and search for interesting back posts on CM. If everything else fails, find a comfortable spot, wrap yourself in a blanket and accept that you miss him, and eventually you'll either fall alseep or feel like doing something else.

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/25/2006 11:33:58 PM

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Thank you for the information TopCurious

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/26/2006 8:32:51 PM

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It's funny, buy I didn't realize I was doing exactly some of the things that were suggested here. I belong to a couple, and there have been times that they have gone away (like now) where I am pulling my hair out of my head, but I find a lot of comfort in doing projects around the house that are unlikely to get done when other people are home (like serious reorganizing and tearing the house apart/putting it back together). I wish you luck...it is not an easy road, but it can be more fulfilling at times than anything you have ever expereienced.

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/26/2006 8:47:10 PM

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As a military wife/sub, I've had to endure many times of separation from Daddy. Up to and including the current one, which has been going on since January of this year and won't end until March of next. You learn to just do what you have to do. Take care of things on the "home front" and not sit around feeling sorry for yourself.

As long as you get to talk to the One you love, it's all good!

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/27/2006 11:15:00 AM

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When We leave, we take our slave(s) with Us. Why did He not take you? Several years ago with My first husband, we had three slaves. Only one required (she literally go sick when We left) that We take her with Us, so We did that. Keep busy, read a book (or a series of books), mow the lawn, feed the birds, take walks, go to the park ... anything to keep your mind and body busy.

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/27/2006 3:01:35 PM

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As with most things, there's usually a *positive* side.

Without being Pollyanna.......How about the fact that it's better to be missing him than thinking * Thank fuck he's gone*?.....lol

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/27/2006 3:25:49 PM

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one day at a time sister.. one day at a time, lots of tears, lots of aches.. but i agree.. isnt missing someone so intensely a good indication? im in a long distance relationship and everyday it gets harder.. but keep looking toward tomorrow and stay busy busy

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/27/2006 7:34:15 PM

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one day at a time sister.. one day at a time, lots of tears, lots of aches.. but i agree.. isnt missing someone so intensely a good indication? im in a long distance relationship and everyday it gets harder.. but keep looking toward tomorrow and stay busy busy

~alika~ (tami)

I have to agree with alika.... "One day at a time" and if that is too hard try one hour at a time or minute at a time. I am also in a LDR and everyday i dont see Him gets harder, some times it hurts so bad i dont know how i will make it through the next breath... But i do because i know he wants me to. Having something you can touch or snuggle of His helps. Daily contact helps even if it just an email. But i think the most important is knowing that they want us to be strong and make it through the hard times and the seperation.

hope this helps.

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RE: How do you cope? - 8/27/2006 9:25:20 PM

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I'm in th reverse situation right now- I'm away from my Dom for work, and he's at home. I still miss him bitterly, and will be glad to be home with him. I am messaging him online right now.

When he leaves home, I sleep on his side of the bed, that smells like him. I will often hold one of his pillows to my chest or something like that. Then I work on what needs doing before he returns, and do that, since it makes me feel happy to know I can please my Dom when he's not there, too. Delayed gratification, I guess.

Good luck.
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RE: How do you cope? - 8/28/2006 6:37:03 AM

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As so many have said, there are a lot of things you can do. And yes, a t-shirt works wonders!

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