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lovebottom -> A question for Daddy Doms (3/29/2007 5:02:18 PM)
For those who have a 'lil girl or have in the past, did you originally get together based on the Daddy/lg dynamic or was it introduced later on? Would you have been open to a sub who specifically stated that she was looking for a Daddy? (Okay, I know, that's two questions!) Thanks!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/29/2007 5:22:45 PM)
Hey Love, For me it was always the relationship and the daddy/daughter thing was added on to that. But some specifically are built upon the daddy/daughter structure. http://www.collarchat.com/m_668543/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#668698 Age play dynamics http://www.collarchat.com/m_580865/mpage_1/key_age%252Cplay/tm.htm#580890 Ms and age play http://www.collarchat.com/m_546688/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#546972 Another daddy dom question http://www.collarchat.com/m_541638/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#541832 How does a dom decide to be a daddy ? http://www.collarchat.com/m_540044/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#540129 Daddy's Girl http://www.collarchat.com/m_278285/mpage_2/key_daddy/tm.htm#278992 What exactly is a daddy dom? http://www.collarchat.com/m_259176/mpage_1/key_daddy/tm.htm#259184 Are there any daddies here? Daddy/Daughter Roleplay Daddydoms and Babygirls Daddy? Daddy/little girl Hiding Daddy's Belt Daddy doms Daddy's little girl Daddy? (2)

PlayfulOne -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/29/2007 6:14:27 PM)
The Daddy/daughter part of our relationship started within the first week of our relatinship. I purposely called her a good little girl about something one evening, and she responded , "Thank you Daddy" K

CreativeDominant -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/29/2007 6:56:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovebottom For those who have a 'lil girl or have in the past, did you originally get together based on the Daddy/lg dynamic or was it introduced later on? Would you have been open to a sub who specifically stated that she was looking for a Daddy? (Okay, I know, that's two questions!) Thanks! We didn't get together because of it nor was it the biggest part of our D/s or BDSM dynamic...but it did play an important part and because of its' importance to her, it came into play soon in the relationship. There were times when she needed to be "Daddy's girl" and they brought out the "Daddy" in me. As for a submissive who specifically stated she was looking for a Daddy, there would have to be a lot of discussion and forthright answers from her just what "Daddy" entailed to her.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/29/2007 7:23:00 PM)
Daddy and i started off with a vanilla friendship that grew gradually into a Daddy-daughter D/s dynamic. i wasn't really looking for a Dom when we first met however Daddy did see me as an orphaned child who needed guidance in reaching her full potential as a successful woman. there's a noticeable change in me from back then to now. to answer your other question, to be honest i don't think Daddy would look for someone who's looking for a "daddy". for my Daddy, it takes a very special woman in His eyes to become His daughter.

shadevarr -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/29/2007 10:25:28 PM)
Pretty much from the get go. It just fell into place. I even read her stories at bedtime since she can't sleep without hearing my voice. Granted it is still LD after 7 months.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 12:04:58 AM)
If I may speak on behalf of my daddy, No. He did not come into this seeking me to be his baby girl, I wanted a daddy very much and he didn't really like the nick name daddy, conjured up the imagae of bio dad bio kid a little to strongly. However once he understood my liking the tittle daddy was not about a bio dad but about the image of a strong careing man nurtureing and raising his charge he had no problem with being my Daddy. It kind of just developed.

spanklette -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 2:11:47 AM)
Forgive me for speaking for my Daddy, but I will anyway. He is a Daddy Dom, through and through. He introduced this part of the lifestyle to me, and it was understood from the get go that He was looking for a little girl(not daughter, just wanted to be clear). So, in a nutshell, it was from the beginning. At the point that we met, He would have been only interested in a submissive who could submit within that dynamic. Now, though, I think He is starting to see things from a new perspective. Of course, that's neither here nor there.

DocTSH -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 2:22:07 AM)
Since my little girl has already spoken for Me...Is there a reason behind the query?

MaamJay -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 2:59:16 AM)
Those I have known have tended to evolve into it, though usually the sub has later confessed to a deep longing for that relationship and tended to be attracted to an older man. On a side note, my sub side really stirs Master when i call Him Daddy ... maybe it has to do with Him being 15 years younger than me?? Nonetheless, sometimes He is just so wise, it almost seems like the right thing to call Him! Then again, when He is acting the fool and pretending to have a tantrum in front of the supermarket trolley i am pushing ... well, then i think "i'm submitting to a 5-year old" LOL! Just got to love laughing together. And another side note, I once had a sub (LDR though W/we were aiming to go real time, but his need to care for his daughter intervened) who loved to call Me Mistress Mommy. I was a bit taken aback at first (esp as I have no rugrats Myself other than those with fur and 4 legs), but I got to like it over time. I don't see this mentioned very often ... anyone else know of any Mommy/boy D/s relationships? Maam Jay aka violet[A]

Tamerofwild1s -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 2:16:42 PM)
having had a couple Daddy/lg relationships I got into most under the pretense that it will be a Daddy/lg dynamic ..... I much prefer it. theres just that warm all over feeling one gets I am usually addressed as Daddy anyway I prefer that too Sir

OhBeMyMind -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 3:49:59 PM)
Speaking for my daddy with permission. Our relationship did not begin with the Daddy/lg dynamic. It was a few months before it just naturally evolved. I adore the warm fuzzies that come with this type of relationship, and I often find it strange that I have not experienced it with other dominants that I have spent significant time with (my Daddy/Master/Dom/Sir is the first that I have been collared to). Other dominants I have personally had experience with were mostly severe micro-managers that stayed on my ass every stinking moment, behaving as though they had something to prove. I like being playful and having fun, I know I can be quite a handful but it is just how I am wired I suppose...anyway, my Daddy handles me very well and I often wonder if I could be truly happy with any other type of dominant, and I really do not think I could. Without micro-managing me, he still keeps me on my toes, he is strict when he needs to be or when he feels I need him to be. I never specifically said I was looking for a Daddy Dom, but heaven forbid I am ever looking again, I will specifically seek a Daddy Dom. Edited to add: Tamer Sir (who posted above me), I did not think that you could get better looking (having been AWOL from the CM boards for awhile)...well I was wrong!!! [;)]

CreativeDominant -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 5:47:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s having had a couple Daddy/lg relationships I got into most under the pretense that it will be a Daddy/lg dynamic ..... I much prefer it. theres just that warm all over feeling one gets I am usually addressed as Daddy anyway I prefer that too Sir Hey Tamer, long time no see...

DominaSmartass -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/30/2007 8:07:41 PM)
My relationship did not take on the Daddy/girl things until a few months into it. It sort of hit me one day that what we were doing wasn't exactly d/s but it wasn't exactly vanilla and the gender roles were reversed (I was the masculine one, he the feminine one) and as soon as I started calling him my girl it was like a magic button. Still not sure when or how he started calling me Daddy but it came very organically. I am not looking for this particular dynamic with anyone else and don't know if I would be in the future.

ScreamerGirl -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (3/31/2007 8:50:08 AM)
The one relationship I had with this element grew it organically. We'd been together for awhile, long distance, visiting every few weeks. On the phone one night, he kept referring to me as 'lil girl' and at some point, in a very quiet voice, I asked if I could call him Daddy. Enthusiastically he agreed, and there we were. It was a small part of our overall relationship, but it did have it's place. He was always "Daddy" to me, whether I called him that very often or not.

marsman -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (4/1/2007 9:17:46 AM)
I never thought of myself as a "Daddy" Dom but only as a plain Dom. And after playing a while and relating with several submissives, they started to call me "Daddy". I think it grew out of my fatherly and protective behavior towards them. Maybe responsibility is the key. When a Dom takes on active responsibility for a submissive not just during play but for her ordinary vanilla life, then he is behaving in a very nurturing "Daddy" way.

Mustardseed -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (4/2/2007 9:14:10 PM)
I've got carte blanche to talk about Daddy as long as I'm not fibbing. The answer is yes and no. I knew that upon returning to the Wet Spot after a vanilla breakup that I wanted a Daddy. I went through the membership boards, looking up posted profiles on bondage.com and other sites to match faces to usernames and the like. I hotlisted a bunch of people, and noticed the combination of a fairly good looking picture, a profile that included conversational questions for the responder, and a very storng preference to be called "Daddy." I added that one to my list to refer to later. I wasn't really experienced with the concept of hotlisting people, and didn't realize that the people I hotlisted could see that I'd done it. gleep! Fast forward a few weeks. I'm at the Spot with some friends, and very handsome guy walks forward as I'm passing, says "hi," introduces himself and slides back into the background after I acknowledge him. I'm almost sadthat I'm there with my friends, as he was pretty hot ... but I didn't want to do anything stupid fresh on heels of a breakup. I looked him up again, found his profile, responded -- thanking him for coming up to me -- and started a dialogue. We had our first date a few weeks later ... which was when all the hasty, unwise and quite fun things happened. It was a few months into dating -- in the heat of summer, if I remember correctly -- that we started discussing Daddy/Daughter play. I showed off a leather trenchcoat that I'd picked up recently as a sort of consolation prezzie for not having a Daddy. I was planning on using it as an aftercare blankie, and social armor for rides home if I bused through downtown. I think he'd brought his own trench to my place as I'd told him I'd been treating mine and he wanted to use some of my supplies. Although our coats were about the same size, he asked me to try his on. So, I knelt naked on the floor except for a chainmaille necklace I'd comissoned from him and pulled on his coat. It's different to wear someone else's coat. I would never, ever presume to pull on someone else's clothes without asking or being offered first, especially leathers. But once in it, I felt very .... little. And in that potentially sexy pose, my hair falling around my face, my neck encased in metal and my body supporting the weight of his leather, I did the only thing that felt natural: I waved my arms so that the sleeves of his coat flapped. He later told me that, in that moment, he thought, "Oh, my god. This could work." It took a few more weeks for the actual conversation to happen. He was used to being called a sicko even by his kinky loved ones for being into age play, and was pretty convincned that I was going to suggest he get counseling. I had apparently misheard him in a previous and was convinced he thought me too old for such play. We eventually got it figured out. "And that's the truth. pbbbbttt!" - Edith Ann

Ampersand -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (4/3/2007 9:31:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ScreamerGirl The one relationship I had with this element grew it organically. We'd been together for awhile, long distance, visiting every few weeks. On the phone one night, he kept referring to me as 'lil girl' and at some point, in a very quiet voice, I asked if I could call him Daddy. Enthusiastically he agreed, and there we were. It was a small part of our overall relationship, but it did have it's place. He was always "Daddy" to me, whether I called him that very often or not. This is damn near exactly the way it came about with my little girl. We met, and had a friendly relationship filled with a good amount of sexual tension, but then had to part ways for different parts of the country. We kept in touch, and fell in love, over the phone. When we would talk on the phone, the, "Good night little girl."/"Good night Daddy." dynamic just sort of evolved naturally. And now, particularly in times of stress for her, she gets tiny and needs her Daddy, and I happily rise to the occassion.

lovebottom -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (4/3/2007 12:27:21 PM)
Wow, thanks everyone for the wonderful responses! Yes DocTSH, there is a reason behind my query. I have been looking for a Daddy Dom for a while now and have not had much response from men who really identify as Daddy Doms. It occurred to me that maybe the label is something that some guys are uncomfortable with even though they are in fact very Daddy-like. From the responses here, it does seem that many Daddy/lg couples did not start off on that basis. So now I am wondering if I should avoid mentioning the dynamic specifically in my profile and instead use some less loaded words such as protective, nurturing, loving, etc. Maybe that would attract more men, but still Daddy-like ones? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

CuriousLord -> RE: A question for Daddy Doms (4/4/2007 1:38:51 AM)
Almost always added on. Though, I may be a different case due to age. Most of my daughters have been "vanilla" relationships at the start- "vanilla", in quotes, since they often contained elements of BDSM without the official acknowledgement of such. Outside of this sort of site, I have never met a female who was looking for a sexual relationship with a man she would be to refer to as her own father. It's always come up later, when I've taken a nurturing, guiding role in the relationship, and the titles just seemed to fit. I'd like to point at that, at least at my age that the vast majority of girls have no idea what they actually want- an observation that I can only pray to Karana will grow further from absolution as the years pass. Many of these girls wanted a "Daddy", but would be shocked, let alone disgusted, at such a suggestion prior to epiphany.

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