Horadell
Posts: 47
Joined: 9/6/2006 From: SW Florida Status: offline
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I have posted a question with the same title in ask a sub/slave, but the question I am asking here is completely different, and I am looking for a different group of people to answer it, obviously. Where in my other question, I was asking, how does a sub/slave really come to understand if they are a sub/slave, here what I am trying to find out... How does someone make the determination that they would rather have a slave than a submissive, or submissive rather than slave? And of course, most importantly, If you would rather have a submissive, but the person you are already with, and exploring the lifestyle with, wants to fill the slave role, (or the other way around, wanting slave, only getting sub) How would you go about that? Has anyone been in this situation before? I would rather avoid the obvious answers, if possible, (Hah! Easy! kick her to the curb and go after what you want!) as I do love her very much, and I don't simply want to be rid of her because she isn't perfectly what I want right now, because really, I don't quite know. As honest as I can be... Am I ready for D/s? I don't know. I hope I am, but I will not know until I am try. I do know that what being dominant means to me, may not be what being dominant means to someone else. Am I looking for a D/s? Maybe, again, I don't really know. I know I don't want a Vanilla relationship, but I do not know exactly how far I want to, or can actually handle, taking it. Could I really be in search of M/s? Possibly, again, I don't know. I don't have the experience neccessary to answer my own question, hence why I am asking here. How did any of you, Dom/me's or Master/Mistresses, finally come to the decision that you wanted to be what you are? and not something else...
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