Daddysredhead
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Joined: 11/6/2005 From: Northern (yet still part of the South) Virginia Status: offline
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Dear SB - So many have wondered the same thing, as did I at one time. There isn't any one definition that will "fit" for everyone, but I can tell you how it is defined in my relationship with Daddy. We began in a Dom/sub relationship, where I deferred things to Him if there was a choice to be made in the more "day to day" things (not particularly critical matters). I was in control of my "limits" and what they were and when enough was enough. As time progressed, I became more trusting of His sound decision making, etc., and felt that I was very comfortable handing over more things that I retained control over. In April, the decision was made to change some of the dynamics in our relationship and move toward the Master/slave variety. In our M/s world, He retains ultimate control over limits that we have. He makes the decisions and I will follow those decisions. That being said, He and I have been together for 4 years next June and know each other very well, so the trust is very solid. I retain who I am in the rest of my world (mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee, etc.) and He doesn't ask of me anything that would compromise any of those relationships. For me, I can be all of those people, and still be a slave to my Master. Super fast reply: For us... submissive = sub sets limits, etc. slave = Master/Mistress sets limits, etc. within the boundaries of trust and respect for them both
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