juliaoceania -> RE: Embarasment vs Humiliation (8/27/2006 10:20:00 AM)
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Well one difference is that humiliation is something that takes place either in private or with other people consenting to witness it. There is an understanding that the humiliation is something that was consented to by the parties involved. There is an arousal element often to it, at least one person involved is usually getting sexually aroused during humiliation. Embarassment is something that I do not see as consensual. It takes place in front of nonconsenting people (I would never consent to watch someone embarass their submissive because they were "punishing" her for example... not my kink, and I do not want to be involved in that). It is something I see as a punitive thing, a shaming thing, and as something that is not designed for arousal.... Fictional Example : A dom makes his sub dress like a whore for a family reunion to shame her, not consensual, not physically arousing.She never agreed to be demeaned in front of her vanilla family... this is embarassment Fictional example of humiliation: A dom tells everyone that he wants to show his sub what a slut she is and she will give everyone there a blow job that wants one at a party he throws... he is consensually humiliating her if this arouses her or anyone that engages in it, and it is within her limits
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